Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well you should have your own opinions about things. Saying you like something just to amke her like you more is an afc thing to do.Originally posted by Guitarfreakelite
lol... i thought about the same thing a while back this is what ya do..
rappaport.. its all in that "specail connection" the stronger you can make that the easyer time you'll have. say things likes "oh my gosh me 2! "i know!".. i think its called meing. look it up, um try to link things between you 2.. "hot dog, i love hot dog... i love it so much bla bla.. bs... and also try the "special connection pattern" ... just try to make a connction, obsurve her, give her genuin compliments that most people wouldnt notice. if there is something you 2 have in common really dwell on it, draw it out ya know? hope it helped
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thank you. You are part of my "favorite posters."Originally posted by This Times For Real
Well you should have your own opinions about things. Saying you like something just to amke her like you more is an afc thing to do.