"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Girls like sex with the lights off??
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Mistic
Senior Don Juan
Hint. The girls who want the lights on are typically the same ones who want it in the as$ and love getting their hair pulled, called sluts, spanked a bit, etc., you get the idea.
Younger girls and house on the prairie religious types are typically not as comfortable and want the lights off or very low.
Scar Tissue
Don Juan
But getting a dimmer would be perfect for this situation, find a lighting amount that both of you can enjoy. And who knows, maybe in time she will let you increase the light. You could help your chances of that by complimenting her body at times. You know, like letting her know you think she is beautiful and stuff.
No dimmer? Keep your computer screen on, stereo, tv, etc
Almost all electronics these days have some sort of glow it seems like so it shouldnt be hard to find something that gives off light.
808
Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Nexus Polaris
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Not necessarily. I used to get girls to take it in the ass by witholding regular sex until they agreed to anal. You'd be amazed at how well it worked. Even ones that said, "Never ever," eventually caved. And this was back in my WBAFC days before I had any clue what I was doing.Scars said:
Granted, that was before I had ever slept with them, though. You can't exactly get away with that kind of stuff as easily if you're already in a relationship.
So I guess I probably agree that he should just mention casually trying it with the lights on. Candles and dimmers are also really good ideas.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
When I first started sleeping with my new interest a couple of weeks ago, she would always object to me turning the lights on in the car, but yesterday as she was giving me head, I turned them on and she didn't say ****.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next time, keep the lights on, and just JUMP straight into sex.
Once you frame that it is cool between you two with the lights on, she'll have nothing to worry about.
You have to start instilling this new habit of having sex with lights on with her gradually.
Hope that helps.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
yep, my gf won't have sex with the lights off unless she hasn't shaved down thereNight Owl said:
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Just a Shot Away
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So if you guys are laying in bed about to fall asleep, and things start heating up...you'll go, "Oh wait, hang on." and get up, turn the lights on, and get back in bed to bang? That sounds so odd to me...
Accension
Senior Don Juan
If you don't like it, gradually have sex at lighter times of the day until it's dark with lights on.
I've heard this one heaps and this is the usual progression.
tl;dr build sexual comfort.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.