"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girls like sex with the lights off??
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Mistic
Senior Don Juan
Hint. The girls who want the lights on are typically the same ones who want it in the as$ and love getting their hair pulled, called sluts, spanked a bit, etc., you get the idea.
Younger girls and house on the prairie religious types are typically not as comfortable and want the lights off or very low.
Scar Tissue
Don Juan
But getting a dimmer would be perfect for this situation, find a lighting amount that both of you can enjoy. And who knows, maybe in time she will let you increase the light. You could help your chances of that by complimenting her body at times. You know, like letting her know you think she is beautiful and stuff.
No dimmer? Keep your computer screen on, stereo, tv, etc
Almost all electronics these days have some sort of glow it seems like so it shouldnt be hard to find something that gives off light.
808
Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nexus Polaris
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Not necessarily. I used to get girls to take it in the ass by witholding regular sex until they agreed to anal. You'd be amazed at how well it worked. Even ones that said, "Never ever," eventually caved. And this was back in my WBAFC days before I had any clue what I was doing.Scars said:
Granted, that was before I had ever slept with them, though. You can't exactly get away with that kind of stuff as easily if you're already in a relationship.
So I guess I probably agree that he should just mention casually trying it with the lights on. Candles and dimmers are also really good ideas.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
When I first started sleeping with my new interest a couple of weeks ago, she would always object to me turning the lights on in the car, but yesterday as she was giving me head, I turned them on and she didn't say ****.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next time, keep the lights on, and just JUMP straight into sex.
Once you frame that it is cool between you two with the lights on, she'll have nothing to worry about.
You have to start instilling this new habit of having sex with lights on with her gradually.
Hope that helps.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
comic_relief
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yep, my gf won't have sex with the lights off unless she hasn't shaved down thereNight Owl said:
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Just a Shot Away
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So if you guys are laying in bed about to fall asleep, and things start heating up...you'll go, "Oh wait, hang on." and get up, turn the lights on, and get back in bed to bang? That sounds so odd to me...
Accension
Senior Don Juan
If you don't like it, gradually have sex at lighter times of the day until it's dark with lights on.
I've heard this one heaps and this is the usual progression.
tl;dr build sexual comfort.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.