"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Girls going for older guys?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
WalkingStick
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Maturity, although misunderstood, is an attractive trait. I would NOT say it is why girls date older guys.
Aside from physical attraction, these kinds of guys are not afraid to be sexual and seem to give off a sense of power simply because of their seniority. Not to mention dating an older guy is a big status booster for a girl.
CP3WOO
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PERIOD ( i love saying this word
)"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do a search for "I'm in love with my teacher." It's hilarious how many girls do this. THESE are older guys.
My only answer would be that girls are weird.
How did you come up with 90%?CP3WOO said:
I can get girls my age, so why would I want to go for younger girls? I wouldn't mind a year under me, but two and three is a bit too much I find.
Another interesting question! I'm clueless on this one tooDarth said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
War Against Betaism
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You do have a point but the thing is maturity does still play a part, girls often assume that older men are mature and are automatically attracted even if they aren't mature. No matter how you look at it, the older guys have 1 or 2 or 3 years of experience over guys their age and this is what women think.WalkingStick said:
High school girls feel more grown up dating guys in college. Girls in college like dating guys who are out of college. I think they see the next step in life as this romantic, cool place to be. And by dating an older guy, they have a pass into that world. The high school girl gets to go to cool college parties and hang out with people who are actually old enough to buy the beer they're drinking. They get to hang out in dorm rooms with no parents around. Which is an exciting new phase the high school girl is excited to get to be a part of.
And college girls enjoy hanging out with people out of college who have real jobs and houses and nice things and drink wine that isn't on the sale rack at the grocery store. Now that she's in college she feels more grown up, and college guys are now too immature. Dorm life sucks and crowded college parties are lame.
I know it sucks now that you're in high school, but the trend gets noticably better for you as you get older.
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Wjhat the hell are you talking about?The Forms said:
You sound like a sick kill-joy!
I actaully have no problem with staying in High School as long as possible!
(And No, that doesn't mean that I'll be willing to fail classess to prolong the experience... )
Older guys just give them something that they find very attractive. Experience.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This.The Forms said:
I see plenty of 16 year old girls who now suddenly feel that they're "mature" and now want guys as old as 20. Of course, it helps that they usually have cars and a job: makes the girls feel even more mature. Which is a big thing to girls. Hence why just about every 12-15 year old girl I see are all outside smoking and wearing slutty clothing in an effort to look older than 15...
I.A.F.Y.B.
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My GF has never dated or even made out with a guy younger than her, most of them have been years older, I'm the first and only one only 9 months older than her. All I did, was read SoSuave regularly.
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