Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Maturity.It's-Me said:I never understood why girls in high school usually go for older guys...
What do you guys think?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How did you come up with 90%?CP3WOO said:90% of girls love older guys. Why? SENIORITY! You might as well lower your age preference by 2-3 years if you want a girl in high school. Just don't end up in jail.
Another interesting question! I'm clueless on this one tooDarth said:Here's a better question...why do so many high school girls fall in love with one of their teachers, even though they know they can't have him?
Do a search for "I'm in love with my teacher." It's hilarious how many girls do this. THESE are older guys.
My only answer would be that girls are weird.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You do have a point but the thing is maturity does still play a part, girls often assume that older men are mature and are automatically attracted even if they aren't mature. No matter how you look at it, the older guys have 1 or 2 or 3 years of experience over guys their age and this is what women think.WalkingStick said:Ever notice that most of these older guys are not any more "mature" than their younger counterparts? (and often less)
Daddy The Pimp said:PERIOD ( i love saying this word)
Wjhat the hell are you talking about?The Forms said:I know it sucks now that you're in high school, but the trend gets noticably better for you as you get older.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This.The Forms said:It makes girls feel more grown up to be with a guy who's more grown up than their friends. I've dated a lot of girls a few years younger than me (I'm 26 so by dating younger girls I mean girls in college.).
High school girls feel more grown up dating guys in college. Girls in college like dating guys who are out of college. I think they see the next step in life as this romantic, cool place to be. And by dating an older guy, they have a pass into that world. The high school girl gets to go to cool college parties and hang out with people who are actually old enough to buy the beer they're drinking. They get to hang out in dorm rooms with no parents around. Which is an exciting new phase the high school girl is excited to get to be a part of.
And college girls enjoy hanging out with people out of college who have real jobs and houses and nice things and drink wine that isn't on the sale rack at the grocery store. Now that she's in college she feels more grown up, and college guys are now too immature. Dorm life sucks and crowded college parties are lame.
I know it sucks now that you're in high school, but the trend gets noticably better for you as you get older.