"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girls going for older guys?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WalkingStick
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Maturity, although misunderstood, is an attractive trait. I would NOT say it is why girls date older guys.
Aside from physical attraction, these kinds of guys are not afraid to be sexual and seem to give off a sense of power simply because of their seniority. Not to mention dating an older guy is a big status booster for a girl.
CP3WOO
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Daddy The Pimp
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PERIOD ( i love saying this word
)"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do a search for "I'm in love with my teacher." It's hilarious how many girls do this. THESE are older guys.
My only answer would be that girls are weird.
How did you come up with 90%?CP3WOO said:
I can get girls my age, so why would I want to go for younger girls? I wouldn't mind a year under me, but two and three is a bit too much I find.
Another interesting question! I'm clueless on this one tooDarth said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
War Against Betaism
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You do have a point but the thing is maturity does still play a part, girls often assume that older men are mature and are automatically attracted even if they aren't mature. No matter how you look at it, the older guys have 1 or 2 or 3 years of experience over guys their age and this is what women think.WalkingStick said:
High school girls feel more grown up dating guys in college. Girls in college like dating guys who are out of college. I think they see the next step in life as this romantic, cool place to be. And by dating an older guy, they have a pass into that world. The high school girl gets to go to cool college parties and hang out with people who are actually old enough to buy the beer they're drinking. They get to hang out in dorm rooms with no parents around. Which is an exciting new phase the high school girl is excited to get to be a part of.
And college girls enjoy hanging out with people out of college who have real jobs and houses and nice things and drink wine that isn't on the sale rack at the grocery store. Now that she's in college she feels more grown up, and college guys are now too immature. Dorm life sucks and crowded college parties are lame.
I know it sucks now that you're in high school, but the trend gets noticably better for you as you get older.
OTB
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Wjhat the hell are you talking about?The Forms said:
You sound like a sick kill-joy!
I actaully have no problem with staying in High School as long as possible!
(And No, that doesn't mean that I'll be willing to fail classess to prolong the experience... )
Older guys just give them something that they find very attractive. Experience.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This.The Forms said:
I see plenty of 16 year old girls who now suddenly feel that they're "mature" and now want guys as old as 20. Of course, it helps that they usually have cars and a job: makes the girls feel even more mature. Which is a big thing to girls. Hence why just about every 12-15 year old girl I see are all outside smoking and wearing slutty clothing in an effort to look older than 15...
I.A.F.Y.B.
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My GF has never dated or even made out with a guy younger than her, most of them have been years older, I'm the first and only one only 9 months older than her. All I did, was read SoSuave regularly.
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