AFK Protector
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I used to be a nice guy. Now I was flirting, not giving in as you read about in my other topic, but girls are starting to call me mean. I feel uncomfortable. Help. Thanks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girls called me mean
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tails
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Stop being mean.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
OK screw it all. I'm gonna go back to playing it safe being nice to everyone.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Man, this frustration is building up...everything I do isn't DJ like and it turns out to be mean. At least when I was a nice guy, everyone was cool with me. However, this girl is just one out of many and I'm still a nice guy them all. I need to reconcile.Originally posted by Tails
Stop being mean.
-Nice guy for life.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
ok screw it all again. This girl wasn't exactly a goodie two shoes towards me neither. Some women deserve my respect, others don't. She's simply not one of them. I'm gonna ignore her. I dno't need people like her in my life. Freaking control freak think she owns by AFK protecting 4ss. And about by book convo. now that i think about it, i did the right thing. She can carry her own d@mn books. Always freeloading off stuff I'm accountable for. God, I'm mad. There's my plan:
-Believe in what I believe
-Respect people who respect me back
-Don't take **** from girls like her
-Deny false accusations. :\
-Believe in what I believe
-Respect people who respect me back
-Don't take **** from girls like her
-Deny false accusations. :\
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
ok...im changing the title to "a girl" instead of "girls."
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Be specific. You're too vague about what you're doing that's "mean" for anyone to offer serious advice.
Yeah, if it's in a playful way, and you busted on her, you're in.Originally posted by squirrels
Be specific. You're too vague about what you're doing that's "mean" for anyone to offer serious advice.
If you called her a wh0re and spit in her face, yeah. You're mean...
I presume you're in HS, you are wise beyond your years...Remember that list you made...Originally posted by AFK Protector
ok screw it all again. This girl wasn't exactly a goodie two shoes towards me neither. Some women deserve my respect, others don't. She's simply not one of them. I'm gonna ignore her. I dno't need people like her in my life. Freaking control freak think she owns by AFK protecting 4ss. And about by book convo. now that i think about it, i did the right thing. She can carry her own d@mn books. Always freeloading off stuff I'm accountable for. God, I'm mad. There's my plan:
-Believe in what I believe
-Respect people who respect me back
-Don't take **** from girls like her
-Deny false accusations. :\
ToP DoN
Banned
who cares
about her....move on
about her....move on
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Being called "mean" is good.
It is also a test to see whether you will back track to being "nice". If you do, then the girl loses attraction straight away because she knows that it is just an act you are putting on.
When a girl calls me "mean" or "bastard" or something along those lines, I just laugh at her and then sarcastly be SUPER nice to her (hug her, pat her on the head etc).
It is also a test to see whether you will back track to being "nice". If you do, then the girl loses attraction straight away because she knows that it is just an act you are putting on.
When a girl calls me "mean" or "bastard" or something along those lines, I just laugh at her and then sarcastly be SUPER nice to her (hug her, pat her on the head etc).
LordBrian
Don Juan
A friend of mine who I am not DJing calls me an A-hole after watching me with other girls. I think thats better than being a nice guy...
Its funny, after she says that I say,
"Now ask me if I care"
*imitating a girls voice* "Do you care brian?"
"No, I dont"
followed by a laugh.
Its funny, after she says that I say,
"Now ask me if I care"
*imitating a girls voice* "Do you care brian?"
"No, I dont"
followed by a laugh.
Walk this Way
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It's not mean if you make sure she knows you're just joking. One time a woman and I were teasing each other, and I crossed the line when I said, "Hey you know ________, I was petting my dog last night in my dream. And then I realized it was your leg!" [Yeah, it was that kinda night]. And she laughed but sounded like she felt bad, so I went up to her, put my arm around her, brought her close too my body, and tenderly kissed her and she smiled.
I hate being mean, or overly macho. There's a very real difference between being a jerk or a player and being a decent person.
I hate being mean, or overly macho. There's a very real difference between being a jerk or a player and being a decent person.
walkthisway: was that HB your gf or someone you were dating. cause no girl would let you kiss them unless you they're already intimate with you.Originally posted by Walk this Way
It's not mean if you make sure she knows you're just joking. One time a woman and I were teasing each other, and I crossed the line when I said, "Hey you know ________, I was petting my dog last night in my dream. And then I realized it was your leg!" [Yeah, it was that kinda night]. And she laughed but sounded like she felt bad, so I went up to her, put my arm around her, brought her close too my body, and tenderly kissed her and she smiled.
I hate being mean, or overly macho. There's a very real difference between being a jerk or a player and being a decent person.
yea, there's a difference between beinga jerk,player, and nice guy. you can be called a jerk, just cause of the things you do. but the girls will call on it as if it's a tease. actually, if a girl said that i was mean or a jerk, i would take it as a compliment.
it's something you rarely hear them say, and when they do say it, it means they have a somehwat high IL in you.
It's easy to tell if they're joking by the expression on their face, and by what you did to them. if you actualy did something bad to hurt their feelings or criticize them...then u KNOW you were being a ****.
on the other hand, if they call you a DI*K, then, well they just plain hate your guts.
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Ok guys. I'm back. Yea, I'm in high school. I guess I was freaking out about a research paper, a few debate/math tourneys etc. Very nice points. I think the last post I made contradicted itself. I'm not going to go back being nice. Yes, decent and interesting is good...nice is just boring. I'm not letting her push me around anymore, which I feel is my biggest accomplishment so far. I'm gonna stick to those 4 things.
When they call me mean, its after: I don't act like a chump and their personal b1tch. I offer resistance. I make them wait. I don't give them money (lol...I never give them money).
^^^I noticed all of those have DON'T in them in reference to stuff I don't do for them. I'm through with that crap. i'm here to live my own life...I mean...hell, I don't even get PAID for that first class service I used to perform.
And you're all right. Now that I think of it, when I'm just a TAD bit "mean" (joking around with them...I always make it apparent I'm joking...they must be dense or something) they say I'm mean...when I KNOW there are guys they put up with 10 times as "mean" as me...if you can call me mean. Great tips, thanks for the encouragement, and it feels great to be back.
When they call me mean, its after: I don't act like a chump and their personal b1tch. I offer resistance. I make them wait. I don't give them money (lol...I never give them money).
^^^I noticed all of those have DON'T in them in reference to stuff I don't do for them. I'm through with that crap. i'm here to live my own life...I mean...hell, I don't even get PAID for that first class service I used to perform.
And you're all right. Now that I think of it, when I'm just a TAD bit "mean" (joking around with them...I always make it apparent I'm joking...they must be dense or something) they say I'm mean...when I KNOW there are guys they put up with 10 times as "mean" as me...if you can call me mean. Great tips, thanks for the encouragement, and it feels great to be back.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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100% playful/teasing/flirting/joking. Good point. I needed that cold hard slap. I don't call girls wh0res, b1tches, or other derogatory terms.Originally posted by Reto
Yeah, if it's in a playful way, and you busted on her, you're in.
If you called her a wh0re and spit in her face, yeah. You're mean...
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Originally posted by ScrewIt
walkthisway: was that HB your gf or someone you were dating. cause no girl would let you kiss them unless you they're already intimate with you.
She was a close friend. We had dated once before, and she was single when I kissed her, so it was no big deal. And I did it abruptly, so yeah...