"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girls becoming more confident while men less confident

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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They r only confident up until the moment I fvck them senseless and then I get them to make me some sandwiches while I lie down naked in bed.
 

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Ballsy even. Society is steering in that direction where women should be regarded as better than men.
 

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They fill the void from low Testosterone males
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Who Dares Win

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Most of your confidence comes from the feedbacks you get from the outside, if reproaching a young male is mandatory while reproaching a young girl is not allowed you mess it all already by the kindergarden times.

All you get are over entitled good to nothing women and submissive or rebel men, you get scared soy boys and thugs who dont give a fvck about the law or the rules...which is basically what is gonna happen with young men nowadays.

A deviant environment generates deviant individuals.
 

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I disagree. They are not becoming more confident. They are becoming more outspoken, and less self constrained.

Kind of like kids in a class that has gotten out of control due to lack of discipline.
 

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I agree that women have become more confident. They aren't expected to be homemakers catering to husbands anymore. They have gone to work and made their own careers, bought their own cars and houses. As a result they have developed confidence in themselves thru what they have accomplished.

As for men.....I think there has always been a lot of beta men, however the sanctions that society had in place 20+yrs ago worked to help prop up the more beta, less confident males. Those things aren't in place anymore so they appear less confident than ever before.

There are also a lot of males out there that were raised by single mommies....and they have produced some of the weakest males I have seen.
 

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It's more that "men" (around under 40) have become A LOT more soft. Not all their fault, it's a combination of lower testosterone genetically, over-parenting, and what they were taught in school.

This, in combination with female empowerment, #metoo, and all the attention they get from social media and dating apps, has created the PERFECT STORM.

I have huge success dating women 20-25 years younger because I keep in great shape and exude confidence and own a business. Their DNA wiring says "mate with this guy" and that's something they can't turn off. I have se*x with maybe 30-50% of them.

One thing that has really worked in my favor are dating apps where mature men can find younger women to hang out with. The whole age difference issue has become much less taboo is the past 5-10 years.
 

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When I receive a "Hey there ;)" from one I don't want on POF, or OKCupid, or Tinder and on and on, I just ignore. If they want to be non-responsive just because I don't come up with something "witty" (which I do sometimes) then I willn't respond either. Plus it's Always one 3 to 4 notches below me that opens me. She's either fat or just a few years younger than me or not of my RACE or mixed race etc etc. It's a total mismatch that's always opening me. If I open one that's on par with Me, then I get ignored or looked over or disregarded as not good enough when I'm pretty fvckin badas5 in my opinion. In person, in stores, wherever, I get looks from most females. It's because I'm healthy one, and I do not work in a cubicle. I think that if I started motorcycle ridin that I'd be flush in the po0n. That'd be the trifecta, be a badboy well into my 60s like guys I know who are still slaying 30 years younger in their 60s. Got 20 more years before my 60s, still time is of the essence.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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