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I've had a ton of girls in real life situations ask if I have a girlfriend. So I decided to ask girls now if they have a boyfriend? reckon that's good game?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I just tell them I'm a gay and can strip for them at a later date.Tell her no, ask her how man abortions she had.
How you answer her question would depend on the situation but I would typically do a C&F (and overall avoidant) response to that. However, never ask her if she has a boyfriend. That immediately comes across as desperate to them. Just assume they don't and ask them out for a drink (or just buy her one if you are already at the bar/restaurant). If she is in a serious, committed relationship (and wants to continue to be) she will let you know without you asking. You maintain much better frame this way.I've had a ton of girls in real life situations ask if I have a girlfriend. So I decided to ask girls now if they have a boyfriend? reckon that's good game?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.