Girlfriend of a year put a pink streak in her hair.

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I’m not really into this and I’ve told her this before, but out of nowhere she comes in with a pink strand in her hair.

It didn’t look bad but I don’t know I don’t really like stuff like this and she knows this, she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants and I said I don’t have to be attracted to it.

She knew I wouldn’t like it and did it anyway, how should I handle this
 

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she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants
Always remember this with Women. It's true that they can do whatever they want and you shouldn't give yourself a headache trying to tell them otherwise. That's why I do not get attached to them emotionally (girlfriend). If they are doing something I don't like, I simply leave and move on to another Woman.

In this case, She's your girlfriend and knew you wouldn't like it so what does that tell you? she basically said "I don't give a fvck what he thinks"
 

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It’s not even that bad it’s just that she basically knows how I feel and doesn’t care so it’s all good
 

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I'm going to play devil's advocate here. If you wanted to try a new haircut, do you think anybody here would advise you not to do it because your girlfriend might not like it? It's pretty much the same thing here. I don't see it as that big of a deal, certainly not a dealbreaker. Lots of people are putting these weird colors in their hair now, it's in style. Especially since Halloween is around the corner (my theory is that is where this fad originated - seriously).
 

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I’m not really into this and I’ve told her this before, but out of nowhere she comes in with a pink strand in her hair.

It didn’t look bad but I don’t know I don’t really like stuff like this and she knows this, she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants and I said I don’t have to be attracted to it.

She knew I wouldn’t like it and did it anyway, how should I handle this
Just playfully make fun of her for it and stop caring. Sometimes when a woman knows it bothers you she'll just do it intentionally as a way to show she has power over you. It's best to never let her know what bothers you, when it's something petty like this. If you really cant handle it break up. This is very petty.

Also the majority of women are emotionally immature like this. Don't show them when you're upset unless it's something serious, always just withdraw attention and stop validating her. You can also withdraw attention after you tease her about how silly she looks.
 

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I'm going to play devil's advocate here. If you wanted to try a new haircut, do you think anybody here would advise you not to do it because your girlfriend might not like it? It's pretty much the same thing here. I don't see it as that big of a deal, certainly not a dealbreaker. Lots of people are putting these weird colors in their hair now, it's in style. Especially since Halloween is around the corner (my theory is that is where this fad originated - seriously).
My first thought was this. However:

1. It would be important to me because my image in the business world would suffer if my GF looked/acted like some immature 15yr old with pink hair. Not sure this is the case here but it could be.

2. If the shoe was on the other foot she would get upset.(it's a double standard you shouldn't bother solving but emotionally it plays a role knowing she doesn't have the empathy).
 
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Two things:
1) Pick your battles.
2) File this under Things That Aren't That Important.
ya zekko has the correct attitude toward this. not to be rude but it shows insecurity that you disapproved in the first place.
THAT SAID, if I am any type of good judge toward women she's already made the decision to cheat, whether or not she has yet, your relationship is effectively over. I would figure out how to make an exit immediately. the second this phrase comes out "I can do what I want", its over. pull back.
 

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she says it’s her hair and can do what she wants
She can, so generally you should try not to sweat the minor stuff to avoid petty fights,

That means letting the little things go but making note of them if they become frequent/increase in severity

however...


She knew I wouldn’t like it and did it anyway, how should I handle this
Instant dealbreaker. It means she does not care about or respect your wishes, or that her random attention seeking whims are more important.

Either demote to plate or dump. Do not take this woman seriously because if she wants to move 400 miles away, **** another guy, branch swing, become addicted to drugs while partying every night or take a vow of celibacy, She will because "it's her body and she can do what she wants".
 
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Guys worried about such stupid things these days...no wonder so many have trouble finding women. Say your piece about it but that's it. You don't own her bro, she can do what she wants.
 

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Girls are crazy bro... they will do things that you don't like just so they can be ''reassured'' that you love them.

In this case, she colored 1 hair pink.... sure she's testing you... she wanted to do something with her hair but knew you didnt like it so she did the minimal change possible. It's not a sign she'll cheat or whatever lol. It's a test for you

If you can't pass a single pink hair... Man she doesn't deserve you.
 

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I don’t know. No it’s not a big big deal but it could be a sign of future behaviour because she basically did something (although small), that she knew he would not like. He communciated that he would not like that and she did it anyway and when he called her on it and she basically said she doesn’t care.

If my husband cut his hair in a style he knows I don’t like that would piss me off a bit. Yes it’s his hair but it’s the principle of the thing esp as I know he would be pissed if I cut my long hair into a bob or something lol.

That’s how I’m looking at OP’s situation. If he does something she doesn’t like will she accept the reply she gave him?

I don’t think he should dump her but I do think he should continue to communicate his values and boundaries (that’s what he’s doing) and if she continues to disrespect those values and boundaries then she’s not the girl for him.
 

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I don’t know. No it’s not a big big deal but it could be a sign of future behaviour because she basically did something (although small), that she knew he would not like. He communciated that he would not like that and she did it anyway and when he called her on it and she basically said she doesn’t care.

If my husband cut his hair in a style he knows I don’t like that would piss me off a bit. Yes it’s his hair but it’s the principle of the thing esp as I know he would be pissed if I cut my long hair into a bob or something lol.

That’s how I’m looking at OP’s situation. If he does something she doesn’t like will she accept the reply she gave him?

I don’t think he should dump her but I do think he should continue to communicate his values and boundaries (that’s what he’s doing) and if she continues to disrespect those values and boundaries then she’s not the girl for him.
I've found women like to deal with issued on a case by case basis rather than blanket standards to follow. I've had a hell of a time setting overt boundaries, only the true manipulators were even opportunistic enough to enthusiastically adopt(then secretly ignore) them. It seems like men have truly become the women, concerned with maintaining stability, while the women are living how the most opportunistic men lived in the old system.
 

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the hair thing is just a symptom of the problem...her attitude is huge red flag.

Pride comes before a fall.
 
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I've found women like to deal with issued on a case by case basis rather than blanket standards to follow. I've had a hell of a time setting overt boundaries, only the true manipulators were even opportunistic enough to enthusiastically adopt(then secretly ignore) them. It seems like men have truly become the women, concerned with maintaining stability, while the women are living how the most opportunistic men lived in the old system.
I think there’s some truth to that for some women and men for sure.
I don’t mean communicate blanket standards at the jump. I mean bringing it up on a case by case basis like you said. I agree.
 

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I think there’s some truth to that for some women and men for sure.
I don’t mean communicate blanket standards at the jump. I mean bringing it up on a case by case basis like you said. I agree.
You girls have to be told "indirectly" and "with no time constraint" .

A women self-image and concept is harder to change than a man.

You cant tell your gf: "you need to lose 15pounds before week or the wedding"

Girls find direct communication in these matters to not touch the "emotional" string to the object they need to relate

You have to be subtle: "you know honey, our wedding is coming up next week, this dress would suit you perfectly and would make you standout from the other girls.." ... Than girl see she sees on the tag that the dress requires 15 pounds to lose lol.

Girls love to be right. They must own the emotion

You need to make them think they got the idea.

Men need to communicate smoothly (which is a contradiction to how we communicate).

Laraider, double like.

Men are being feminized by society, also by the birth control pill residue in the water (when in montreal i drink from the Tap, the water have residue from Toronto girl birth control pill).

But LaRaider, i agree with your post BUT it was ALWAYS a MAN JOB to create STABILITY for the women to reproduce.

A male was always judged by his provider status.

Opportunists where sure Entrepreneur/business people and they typically were MALE because they found more ressources.

However, opportunists male often came from Rich/Aristocrats families... Or where gifted individuals outside of the "norm" .

Women were always opportunistic in the management of her space because it was needed for survival.

In the past, society/nature/religion were used to create a frame for women and men.

Notice, women barely go beyond what they are told is "acceptable" . They really on a autority figure for that, that autority is based on her emotions.

They challenge that autority often in subtle ways especially if they find a "doubt" (emotional), we can call it "test" because they seek the strongest and most solid authority to submit too.

Now in modern society, the authority is the Gouvernement. Gouvernent are raising kids, are taking care of the eiders, are promotion health, are promotion religion (laïc state) etc...

Family unit was reduced to delegate to the State some of it's nurturing/raising/duties.

So Women now submit to the State message: be the leader, be the number 1 etc...

Before when it was the family the authority, the Father/male was the leader to be listen too... Because he was the provider. The women were also forced to listen to their nature call (no birth control, disease could kill, infant would not survive in many cases, 1 income was enough for a whole family, women were forced in the home).

It was mentionned here alot: Women cant shutdown their brain and their space is the space they take by being given, and they never let go of the space.

Why women are considered harder negociator than m'en? Cause they never compromise on her territory (it's mine, dont touch).

So OP GF listened to her emotions and tested OP... OP was in my opinion shown by his GF
1) she love him (she did only a bit, instead whole
2) she doesnt approve his communications méthods (he need to communicate better)
3) a test to see if he can be man enough to overlook what she did or reframe her positively

She took a bit, to see how he will react, if he pass the test she will stop there, if OP rails, she will add a color to her hair (until the head is fully covered, and woman always change hair style when she change man) LOL , no stress OP.

Remember the PUA book: What doesnt make sense to a man, make sense to a woman.

In modern society, women can be opportunitistic (that is new to them), they can be like men/guys.

Women were always strong and controling, and crazy but they always submitted to the frame they were told to HOLD.

You need to communicate that, it's just for her to understand you need to touch her emotions and communicate in a way that reach her (the opposite of what guys use for communication).

To OP: tease her smoothly, mention she looks goods with that amount, maybe even joke she would look funny fully covered.

Remember: you want to win the argument or you want to win the girl
 
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When she said that I said I have the right to not be attracted to it, she got mad over that and she got into I don’t accept her for who she is, which is not true, we haven’t talked since, yesterday night. She made it like I’m not attracted to her anymore which is not true

Maybe I went a little too far on that one
 

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You girls have to be told "indirectly" and "with no time constraint" .

A women self-image and concept is harder to change than a man.

You cant tell your gf: "you need to lose 15pounds before week or the wedding"

Girls find direct communication in these matters to not touch the "emotional" string to the object they need to relate

You have to be subtle: "you know honey, our wedding is coming up next week, this dress would suit you perfectly and would make you standout from the other girls.." ... Than girl see she sees on the tag that the dress requires 15 pounds to lose lol.

Girls love to be right. They must own the emotion

You need to make them think they got the idea.

Men need to communicate smoothly (which is a contradiction to how we communicate).

Laraider, double like
They way you described how men should communicate to women reminds me of how women communicate to men, making them think it was their idea. I think we invented that strategy hahahahaha.

Uh oh they are using our own weapons against us lol.

Joking! But it’s an interesting concept for sure. :)
 
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I don’t know. No it’s not a big big deal but it could be a sign of future behaviour because she basically did something (although small), that she knew he would not like. He communicated that he would not like that and she did it anyway and when he called her on it and she basically said she doesn’t care.
This right here. Give Women half an inch and they will take 100 miles.
 
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