"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

Chi Town

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All this extra sh!t is just mental masterbation, at the end of the day, if you're not happy or don't feel like she's invested like you are then break up with her, no need to waste anymore time on her.

Also, you can't expect someone to do the same things you do for them, that's life.
You made you're own decision to sacrifice you're sh!t for her, you can't be mad at her for that, that's you're fault.

If she wants to go away for 5 weeks let her go, don't chase or try to stop her.

Meanwhile, as of right now after you read my comment, mentally and emotionally check out of this relationship.

None of that lovey dovey "ooh baby I miss you oh so much my love" none of that sh!t.

If she wants to talk to you she will have to call/text you, period. she ask why you seem distant you say "I just been busy"

Don't act all butt hurt, don't tell her about you're "feelings" just fall all the way back. If my gf went away for 5 weeks I'm not going to be driving myself crazy wondering what she's doing, she's going to be wondering what I'm doing, she's going to be wondering if I'm cheating ECT not the other way around.

This is what you do if insist on staying with her but if she doesn't make you feel wanted or feel good or she doesn't act in a ideal way that you think a gf should why stay with her?

I'm not a faithful guy so if my girl left for 5 weeks that gives me time to fvck other women......
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lizardking82

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All this extra sh!t is just mental masterbation, at the end of the day, if you're not happy or don't feel like she's invested like you are then break up with her, no need to waste anymore time on her.

Also, you can't expect someone to do the same things you do for them, that's life.
You made you're own decision to sacrifice you're sh!t for her, you can't be mad at her for that, that's you're fault.

If she wants to go away for 5 weeks let her go, don't chase or try to stop her.

Meanwhile, as of right now after you read my comment, mentally and emotionally check out of this relationship.

None of that lovey dovey "ooh baby I miss you oh so much my love" none of that sh!t.

If she wants to talk to you she will have to call/text you, period. she ask why you seem distant you say "I just been busy"

Don't act all butt hurt, don't tell her about you're "feelings" just fall all the way back. If my gf went away for 5 weeks I'm not going to be driving myself crazy wondering what she's doing, she's going to be wondering what I'm doing, she's going to be wondering if I'm cheating ECT not the other way around.

This is what you do if insist on staying with her but if she doesn't make you feel wanted or feel good or she doesn't act in a ideal way that you think a gf should why stay with her?

I'm not a faithful guy so if my girl left for 5 weeks that gives me time to fvck other women......
I am with you on this one. He can disregard anything said above this post, but if he intensifies communication during these 5 weeks, I think he will be just solidifying the death of this already half dead relationship.
 
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