"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girlfriend cut her hair too short, how do I tell her?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yeah, everyone who said he should dump her over a haircut that she told him about before she went through with it. Think about it, all of this over a haircut. Makes me wonder what you guys would post if you grow or shave off a moustache or beard and your GF said that she would dump you if you did. It's amazing that hair could cause a power struggle in a relationship.Sun Tzu said:It was important enough for the OP to be concerned about, and for many guys to weigh in on.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I like this answer. It's basically telling her that the way it is now is ok but it's great when her hair is long.SunnyD said:It is a tough one, but quite honestly...I really appreciated an ex bf's honest opinions on things like that.
I wouldn't flat-out say "no, I don't like it" obviously. You don't even have to say you like it better long. When she asks you if you like it say very casually "you pull it off both ways. Short looks cute, long was sexy." Complimenting either way, but speaking personally..most women prefer to be "sexy", yet you're still letting her know she looks "cute." Cute is sort of an insult to a woman without being an insult, know what I mean?? Haha. She'll then decide to grow it out so she can be SEXY for you.
Just my opinion.
Very smooth SunnyD.
Proof of this??? Look at how many young women have long hair, and how many older women have short hair.
Most women cut thier hair short when they get older and have given up trying to be attractive to men.
Sorry for those of you who don't like this, but if you look around you will see it is true
What does this mean for the OP? I am not a psychologist, but I don't think a woman cutting her hair short is a good sign for a relationship. I just don't see it as a positive thing.
I would not view it as a good sign for a continued relationship.
OK, apologists, flame away!
Dietzcoi
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You need to talk to her and listen carefully to see where she is going next and see if you are still in her plan...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree with most of your post, the only women I know under 40 have short hair is marriaged or is Gay, my post about the neck being exposed was meant to be looking for a positivedietzcoi said:Well, if you believe the evolutionary psychiatrists, long hair indicates a woman's fertility and sexuality, and short hair indicates a woman has "given up" trying to be attractive to men.
Proof of this??? Look at how many young women have long hair, and how many older women have short hair.
Most women cut thier hair short when they get older and have given up trying to be attractive to men.
Sorry for those of you who don't like this, but if you look around you will see it is true
What does this mean for the OP? I am not a psychologist, but I don't think a woman cutting her hair short is a good sign for a relationship. I just don't see it as a positive thing.
I would not view it as a good sign for a continued relationship.
OK, apologists, flame away!
Dietzcoi
A) She's not suddenly about to go lesbo on me. She's 100% straight.
B) She's not giving up on her looks. She cares very much how guys think she looks.
She thought she looked nice, she wanted to show me haircut, I didn't like it and didn't know how to break it to her given her excitement. I justed wanted some suggestions as to how to make my displeasure clear without upsetting her for something as trivial as a bad haircut after she thought she looked sexy. C'mon now.
She usually wears her hair pretty short, and it looks very good. I think it looks better than when she has long hair. It's just this time, it's a little too short.
For those interested, the joke I made to her was for the most part ignored and it hasn't come up again... but I would venture to say she very well remembers and mission successful.
That said, I appreciate the time everyone took to respond to this thread.