Sun Tzu said:
There should have been an understanding between you two from the beginning that any major change in personal appearance will necessarily affect the other person, therefore it should be discussed beforehand. The fact that she went ahead and cut it without discussing it with you speaks volumes.
So does the fact that you are afraid of her. A relationship should never be based upon the fear of expressing your honest opinion about something like this.
Did you notice the response a few posts up from one of the women on this forum? She starts with "Why bother?" Because it's important to you...That's why!
Then she indicates that she perceives expressing your dislike for the new haircut as "insulting her" (and, it will damage her psyche so severely that she will never forgive you).
Give me a break! What kind of world do we live in where a man has to be afraid to express his preference for his woman's appearance?
Be honest. Tell her how you truly feel. You can then lay down the law that drastic changes in appearance should be discussed as a matter of respect for each other.
I must say I agree, and even worse, should she be pissed of about your opinion, its rather insulting to you. She just in for control. Ofcourse make sure you say it in a good way or a subtle way, no need to hurt anybodies feelings eather. Like that complementing the neck thing, that was good
iqqi said:
Doc, just focus on the good parts. Like a poster already said, her neck should be exposed now... sexy...!
I am sure she will pick up on the fact that you liked her hair long better. Who knows, this may grow on you!
Letting things grow on you... Jeez what are you saying! Focus on the good things is all good and well. But sorry, if you like
your girl her looks and she changes it, WHY the hell would you be silent about that, her old haircut was better and that has already grown on you. Saying nothing or doing nothing just shows who's in control and shows alot of cowardness when she does (and she will anyway) find out that he didn't like it. And who wants the coward as a boyfriend, he doesn't even dare to say things on his mind to her, what will happen if something serieus happens? Run to bed and she'll read him a bedtime story?
Don't let it grow on you, grow up yourself and grow some balls if your this big a coward (No offence to the the person who made this thread but if you listen to that advice, or if you agree to it, then thats how I see you)