"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl you like talks about another guy she fancies.....

subsonic

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Hi Guys,

This is my first post on here... I've read most of the Bible already, and its good stuff!!

What do you think about this problem: I'm really into this girl who I've known for a while now. I've seen a bit more of her recently... we went out for a casual dinner the other day (not really a date)... and it was going ok, until her sister turned up with her own date and they joined us. This girl and her sister started talking about this guy that she likes (a mate of one of my mates)....

Anyway, a group of us are going out this weekend, including this girl and also this guy that she talked about is joining us (I've never met him).

How do you think I should act in this situation.... do I just ignore her and have a good time?

Let me know what you think guys....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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tactic

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MAKE HER LIKE YOU?
 

Desdinova

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Make other plans.

It's pointless going out on a "date" when she's bringing all her buddies. All of them will be a distraction and she won't get to devote her full attention to you.

Even worse, she's blabing about some other dude to you. You've become her emotional tampon already. Move on.
 

Maverick001

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subsonic,

Welcome to the forum.

Remember, try to implement as much of what the DJ Bible espouses as you can instead of just reading about it.

There's nothing like field experience.

Yeah, I would also say NEXT this chick.

Cheers,
Mav
 

true|hockey

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if she talks about how she is attracted to other guys, than you are on the infamous friends latter. my suggestion would be just to play it for what its worth, meet her friends :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks guys, maybe I overstated how the "other guy" came up... it was actually her sister who brought him up, and the girl I'm into seemed a bit embarassed about it...

Make any difference? Or do I have to scream "NEXT!!" next time I see her?!? ;-)
 

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NEXT her, but go to the place, zero attention to her, and see if you can meet another girl, now, if you are weak and you will be suffering because she is gonna be with the other guy, then go somewhere else.
 
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