You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maybe her beef curtains are all messed up after having the kid. You know.. she doesn't feel attractive kinda thing.Originally posted by gray_fox_9
ON a side note its been almost a year since she's been with anybody and she is defintely not a virgin cuz she has a kid.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You know how during an operation, the doctors cover up all areas of the body with a towel except the area they are working on? BINGO THERES YOUR ANSWER. :crackup:Originally posted by gray_fox_9
Alright guys so after talking with her a bit more on the phone it seems like she doesn't have a problem sleeping with me but it seems she has a problem with me seeing her naked. My guess is because of the stretch marks she isn't exactly feeling good about herself. So how do I reassure her (subtly) that I don't think badly of them and get her to not care if I see her naked or not?? Thanks in advance.....
You need 3 things to lower her inhibitions: Let her drink some Hard liquer beforehand, play some music and do it in the dark with only a candle lighting the room (hey the man has to look!)Originally posted by gray_fox_9
Alright guys so after talking with her a bit more on the phone it seems like she doesn't have a problem sleeping with me but it seems she has a problem with me seeing her naked. My guess is because of the stretch marks she isn't exactly feeling good about herself. So how do I reassure her (subtly) that I don't think badly of them and get her to not care if I see her naked or not?? Thanks in advance.....
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.