danthemann
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anyone else have a problem where the girl your seeing wont go away and is completely crazy to the point where you gotta change your number?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.gspshields2 said:that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
Ugh. Yeah you're reminding me of the young girls I've dated.PrettyBoyAJ said:Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Alex DeLarge said:Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.
I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"
I second thatgspshields2 said:.
I would love to have this problem
Funny how my recent girl was so crazy i was thinking the same thing about my ex.Iceberg said:My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Iceberg said:Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl:
Girl: u busy?
Yeah, this was more of an example than an exact conversation.joverby said:So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?
I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.
If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.