danthemann
Don Juan
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anyone else have a problem where the girl your seeing wont go away and is completely crazy to the point where you gotta change your number?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.gspshields2 said:that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
Ugh. Yeah you're reminding me of the young girls I've dated.PrettyBoyAJ said:Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Alex DeLarge said:Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.
I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"
I second thatgspshields2 said:.
I would love to have this problem
Funny how my recent girl was so crazy i was thinking the same thing about my ex.Iceberg said:My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Iceberg said:Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl:
Girl: u busy?
Yeah, this was more of an example than an exact conversation.joverby said:So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?
I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.
If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.