Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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danthemann

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anyone else have a problem where the girl your seeing wont go away and is completely crazy to the point where you gotta change your number?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
 

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that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
 

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gspshields2 said:
that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.

I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
Ugh. Yeah you're reminding me of the young girls I've dated.

A text conversation would be like:

Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl: :)
Girl: u busy?


Now you know how girls feel when they get some clingy guy.

My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IceBerg

Two girls currently do that to me. It takes them forever to get the message. Everytime I hear my alert for text messages on my phone I get pissed off just thinking it's those girls.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.

I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"

lucky guy,
if a girl doesnt ignore my text im happy,
usually they ignore me.

theres no hot girl theres into me, wtf
u guys are lucky
 

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i dont think you understand what im saying. or maybe my situation is more complex. eitherway, everytime me and this girl breakup, shell only text a few times a day and call me a buncha times from blocked numbers or random numbers until i pick up. its like her attempt to stay in my life while i try and move on.... im also pretty sure shes BPD
 

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Iceberg said:
My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
Funny how my recent girl was so crazy i was thinking the same thing about my ex.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg said:
Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl: :)
Girl: u busy?

So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?

I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.

If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
 

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trust me you dont want a crazy girl. most of them are bipolar and they just mess with your head.
 

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joverby said:
So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?

I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.

If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
Yeah, this was more of an example than an exact conversation.

Realistically, I would text to confirm, "So, I'll see you at THIS Bar at 9pm." And basically, up until we got to the bar, I'd get 10-20 stupid texts about nonsense.

I wasn't not-responding to be cool. I'm just the kind of person who doesn't text unless there's something to say. So when you match me up with one of these text-addict girls, I start freaking out.

Like, I'd never text "What's up for tonight" as a random conversation. Because I don't do random conversation via text. I'm texting that because I'm literally asking "are our plans for tonight still on?"

The worst part is, I'm too cheap to get an unlimited text plan. So after the first 200 texts, I start getting charged per message. F**king young girls...
 

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Tell her I am your replacement, hopefully she will bother me, but very unlikely, u lucky guy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'd rather have no girls then some crackhead ones who text and call all the time. Not a fan of stalkerish behavior.
 
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