"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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girl wont go away

danthemann

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anyone else have a problem where the girl your seeing wont go away and is completely crazy to the point where you gotta change your number?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
 

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that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
 

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gspshields2 said:
that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.

I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
Ugh. Yeah you're reminding me of the young girls I've dated.

A text conversation would be like:

Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl: :)
Girl: u busy?


Now you know how girls feel when they get some clingy guy.

My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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IceBerg

Two girls currently do that to me. It takes them forever to get the message. Everytime I hear my alert for text messages on my phone I get pissed off just thinking it's those girls.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.

I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"

lucky guy,
if a girl doesnt ignore my text im happy,
usually they ignore me.

theres no hot girl theres into me, wtf
u guys are lucky
 

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i dont think you understand what im saying. or maybe my situation is more complex. eitherway, everytime me and this girl breakup, shell only text a few times a day and call me a buncha times from blocked numbers or random numbers until i pick up. its like her attempt to stay in my life while i try and move on.... im also pretty sure shes BPD
 

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Iceberg said:
My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
Funny how my recent girl was so crazy i was thinking the same thing about my ex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Iceberg said:
Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl: :)
Girl: u busy?

So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?

I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.

If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
 

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trust me you dont want a crazy girl. most of them are bipolar and they just mess with your head.
 

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joverby said:
So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?

I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.

If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
Yeah, this was more of an example than an exact conversation.

Realistically, I would text to confirm, "So, I'll see you at THIS Bar at 9pm." And basically, up until we got to the bar, I'd get 10-20 stupid texts about nonsense.

I wasn't not-responding to be cool. I'm just the kind of person who doesn't text unless there's something to say. So when you match me up with one of these text-addict girls, I start freaking out.

Like, I'd never text "What's up for tonight" as a random conversation. Because I don't do random conversation via text. I'm texting that because I'm literally asking "are our plans for tonight still on?"

The worst part is, I'm too cheap to get an unlimited text plan. So after the first 200 texts, I start getting charged per message. F**king young girls...
 

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Tell her I am your replacement, hopefully she will bother me, but very unlikely, u lucky guy
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'd rather have no girls then some crackhead ones who text and call all the time. Not a fan of stalkerish behavior.
 
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