danthemann
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anyone else have a problem where the girl your seeing wont go away and is completely crazy to the point where you gotta change your number?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.gspshields2 said:that would be nice,
I never have this problem. girls think im a loser.
I would love to have this problem,
and you are complaining?
Ugh. Yeah you're reminding me of the young girls I've dated.PrettyBoyAJ said:Yes, I'm very familiar with that. I just learned that you cannot give your number to anyone. Especially 18 year olds. They get obsessed. Sending 7 text messages in a row without you saying a damn thing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Alex DeLarge said:Well, the girls may be hot.. But when it gets to the point where the girl is contacting you so much that it's just plain annoying, it turns into a problem no matter how hot they are.
I've gotten 3 or 4 texts in a row sometimes without giving a response and I'm thinking "Doesn't she get the picture that I'm busy?"
I second thatgspshields2 said:.
I would love to have this problem
Funny how my recent girl was so crazy i was thinking the same thing about my ex.Iceberg said:My most recent LTR was with a girl my age who owned her own house, made 2x more than me, and drove a Lexus. And every time I date one of these crazy young chicks, I always get the urge to call my ex like, "I'm sorry I dumped you. We can work this out!"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Iceberg said:Iceberg: What's up for tonight?
Girl: I'm still coming.
Girl: Just eating dinner now.
Girl: Spaghetti and meatballs!
Girl: Saw a movie that reminded me of you.
Girl:
Girl: u busy?
Yeah, this was more of an example than an exact conversation.joverby said:So, just to clear some things up.(I know this is probably just a similar example not a carbon copy of one) After you asked what was up and she said she was still coming, why did you not say something like "Okay, cool." or "See you later." Did she respond with the other text too fast before you could reply?
I was just wondering if you were just not responding out of being cool or if you were too busy or what. The being too cool thing only comes from the fact that YOU asked her what was up and after she responded I would think it to be rude to not at least aknowledge on your end.
If she just spazzed out and sent those other one's before you could that's a different story. I just think people can go over board with "being cool" with texting.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.