"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl thinks she just another girl

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did you two have sex?

If yes, the correct response should be something like "I never saw you that way. Why do you need to ask?"

If no, then who gives a fvck?

BS questions should always receive BS responses.
 

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I see that you seldom post here. With attitudes like you received above, I wouldn't blame you. Not everyone here has this need to swagger among a bunch of internet strangers.

Answering such a question would really depend on the female and also the context of your situation with her.

I'm thinking that the safest reply to this question would be (and make it sound sincere - as to not put her on the defense) ... "What makes you ask?" Once you get better specifics, you'll probably provide her with a better answer.

As to your question; you'll probably receive better answers, if you explain your goal with this girl. Is she just another girl to you, do you want to build something with her, is she someone you randomly date, is she someone you keep around to warm your bed?

Personally speaking, I don't give (or advocate) advice designed to use or play with a girls head. However, if you need help to level the playing field, I'll be glad to respond further -- once you provide a little background and agenda.
 

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I see that you seldom post here. With attitudes like you received above, I wouldn't blame you. Not everyone here has this need to swagger among a bunch of internet strangers.
To clarify, when I said "BS questions should always receive BS responses", I meant the girl's question, not OP's.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To clarify, when I said "BS questions should always receive BS responses", I meant the girl's question, not OP's.
I was referring to your "if you aren't having sex with her then why would you give a fvck" attitude.
I'm not knocking you for having a personal opinion, but to someone that's new or doesn't post very often, this could come across in a condescending, swaggering "king of the hill" sort of way.
 
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