Scott Reginald
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What do I say to her when she asks if she just another girl?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl thinks she just another girl
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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manfrombelow
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Did you two have sex?
If yes, the correct response should be something like "I never saw you that way. Why do you need to ask?"
If no, then who gives a fvck?
BS questions should always receive BS responses.
If yes, the correct response should be something like "I never saw you that way. Why do you need to ask?"
If no, then who gives a fvck?
BS questions should always receive BS responses.
Black Widow Void
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I see that you seldom post here. With attitudes like you received above, I wouldn't blame you. Not everyone here has this need to swagger among a bunch of internet strangers.
Answering such a question would really depend on the female and also the context of your situation with her.
I'm thinking that the safest reply to this question would be (and make it sound sincere - as to not put her on the defense) ... "What makes you ask?" Once you get better specifics, you'll probably provide her with a better answer.
As to your question; you'll probably receive better answers, if you explain your goal with this girl. Is she just another girl to you, do you want to build something with her, is she someone you randomly date, is she someone you keep around to warm your bed?
Personally speaking, I don't give (or advocate) advice designed to use or play with a girls head. However, if you need help to level the playing field, I'll be glad to respond further -- once you provide a little background and agenda.
Answering such a question would really depend on the female and also the context of your situation with her.
I'm thinking that the safest reply to this question would be (and make it sound sincere - as to not put her on the defense) ... "What makes you ask?" Once you get better specifics, you'll probably provide her with a better answer.
As to your question; you'll probably receive better answers, if you explain your goal with this girl. Is she just another girl to you, do you want to build something with her, is she someone you randomly date, is she someone you keep around to warm your bed?
Personally speaking, I don't give (or advocate) advice designed to use or play with a girls head. However, if you need help to level the playing field, I'll be glad to respond further -- once you provide a little background and agenda.
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To clarify, when I said "BS questions should always receive BS responses", I meant the girl's question, not OP's.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I was referring to your "if you aren't having sex with her then why would you give a fvck" attitude.
I'm not knocking you for having a personal opinion, but to someone that's new or doesn't post very often, this could come across in a condescending, swaggering "king of the hill" sort of way.