You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They're not headtrips and the thought of me never seeing her again ever is a creepy morbid thought. I ****ed up and it's over I get it...You're putting headtrips on yourself man, ignore your feelings and emotions, you probably won't ever see her again, EVER; so why does that even matter?
I broke up recently so i'm gonna give you a personal tip, download a bunch of dating apps, start going out with your boys, get tons of phone numbers, and start going out with a lot of girls throughout the week.They're not headtrips and the thought of me never seeing her again ever is a creepy morbid thought. I ****ed up and it's over I get it...
They have medication for this now. Go see a doc or research some natural supplements to regulate your mood swings. 5HTP comes to mind, but check with your doc.You have to understand that I'm mild aspergers and severely bipolar. My mental disorders ruin all of my relationships. It's very frustrating and that's why I vent on this forum. I do go to school and have career goals so I'm not a total loser
Which is why she dumped your pathetic ass. Grow a pair.beta cuck she fortuately finished? Wtf does that mean and I'm not beta cause I have depression anxiety self esteem issues. All of my mistakes stem from my mental problems. That's why they're so hard to learn from.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
+ 1I broke up recently so i'm gonna give you a personal tip, download a bunch of dating apps, start going out with your boys, get tons of phone numbers, and start going out with a lot of girls throughout the week.
The DJ Bible is here:where do I even get it?
You're a fvcking faggot motherfvcker. You're a fvcking sh1t talking ****Which is why she dumped your pathetic ass. Grow a pair.
Girl dumbs you and you want to talk about your feelers before or after she gets skull ****ed by the dude who wont buy her the ring? Don't worry. When she has pissed away her best years, wears a moo moo, and has kids from different men, she will call you to raise them.
I swear some of these so called men need to get their testosterone checked. Next set mate!
Said woman can get hit by a bus. ZERO ****S GIVEN. Busy going balls deep and ebragging.
wow you're a disrespectful loser+ 1
Best way to get over a woman is to get under a hundred. Swipe right at life. Hit on everything thin, young, and attractive with a pulse. Go get DEEZED! Tons of young sloots in yoga pants wanting the D.
It's bullsh1t why we ended. That's why it's so frustrating...Are you sure the girl didn't hurt you? Because if she didn't, I don't understand why you care what she thinks.
The only way I could see even bothering to say something is if she is part of your social circle, and you still see her on a regular basis.
Even then it's likely a waste of time. Who cares what she thinks anyway?
The DJ Bible is here:
http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/
Most guys here have read it, or most of it. It contains the basic mindset and philosophies that set the tone for discussion here.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
how did I embarrass myself?Just forget it. How about you try to not make it worse and embarrass yourself further. Sometimes in life you get to a point where you can only try to not make it worse, damage control.
Just go without.
But what if that doesn't work? What if you're multiple chicks down, multiple better looking chicks down the line and you still feel the same?I broke up recently so i'm gonna give you a personal tip, download a bunch of dating apps, start going out with your boys, get tons of phone numbers, and start going out with a lot of girls throughout the week.
No you're a troll.Besides, I think this is a troll. 4/10
You know as we speak, your girl is getting a train ran on her, and your on forum talking about feelers.You're a fvcking faggot motherfvcker. You're a fvcking sh1t talking ****
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Cuck gonna cuck. You mad bruv?wow you're a disrespectful loser