Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
girl texts "have you cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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This is why I don't text, and why you should stop.
Hidden-Hand
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Stop texting girls completely. Keep it at 2-3 and only text to set up a date/make sure she's on her way and you will avoid problems like this. Text her this "Maybe I'll tell you next year ;-)." and leave it at that. Change the subject and set up a date. Don't be a Beta.
Igetit!
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If a girl had asked me that,I'd be like...Err0r said:
"Have I ever cheated on a girlfriend? Well yeah,of course I have. In fact,I've cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had. I hope that's not going to be a problem,is it?".
Remember,when it comes to dating,women are emotional,not LOGICAL.
You'd think that saying something like that would cause her to lose interest in you,but more than likely,she'd just be intrigued.
First,she'd wonder why you'd say something like that to her. She'd be like,"Hmm,well he's obviously not trying to win me over to be saying something like that". And if she's hot,then she'd wonder why you're not trying to win her over.
You think something like this would seperate you from all the other guys out there?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Following_of_Me
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The irony that igetit doesnt get it...
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
NewAndImproved
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I'd like to get to the point where I could say this:
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
no im definitely with igetit on this one. except htere is one thing you have to have and that is a understanding from her that you like to joke around. if you are serious with her all the time in person, she is going to see that side of you in text, no matter how ridiculous the line is
nateistoraw
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lmao, well if you never replied to her do not reply, pretend that you did not get the message or you "do not have texting on ur fone"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Whatever you say, be honest and make it clear you don't condone cheating either from yourself or your girl (if that is true!). If you're looking for a relationship then it HAS to be two-way.
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
The problem with replies here is that far too many guys are suggesting some "****y funny" reply that is apparently supposed to be "alpha" but just sounds lame.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Energizer
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Yep and "NO" is a straight forward answer, you don't need to waffle and for goodness shakes man stop with the texting, phone her and communicate through voice and not words on a screen. Just ring her and answer her question and make small talk afterwards.Julian said:
kingy
Senior Don Juan
be honest,
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
scrouds
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When I first read the question, my gut told me to pull C+F out and make a joke about it. But I totally understand that it can be taken bad over text.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
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Energizer
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"I have cheated HAHAHA that's f*cking hilarious mate". Jesus H Christ man, how can you make a simple yes or no question work for you other than answering yes or no?scrouds said:
WhoIsThatGirl?
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reply with exactly this:
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.