Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
girl texts "have you cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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This is why I don't text, and why you should stop.
Hidden-Hand
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Stop texting girls completely. Keep it at 2-3 and only text to set up a date/make sure she's on her way and you will avoid problems like this. Text her this "Maybe I'll tell you next year ;-)." and leave it at that. Change the subject and set up a date. Don't be a Beta.
Igetit!
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If a girl had asked me that,I'd be like...Err0r said:
"Have I ever cheated on a girlfriend? Well yeah,of course I have. In fact,I've cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had. I hope that's not going to be a problem,is it?".
Remember,when it comes to dating,women are emotional,not LOGICAL.
You'd think that saying something like that would cause her to lose interest in you,but more than likely,she'd just be intrigued.
First,she'd wonder why you'd say something like that to her. She'd be like,"Hmm,well he's obviously not trying to win me over to be saying something like that". And if she's hot,then she'd wonder why you're not trying to win her over.
You think something like this would seperate you from all the other guys out there?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Following_of_Me
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The irony that igetit doesnt get it...
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
NewAndImproved
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I'd like to get to the point where I could say this:
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
no im definitely with igetit on this one. except htere is one thing you have to have and that is a understanding from her that you like to joke around. if you are serious with her all the time in person, she is going to see that side of you in text, no matter how ridiculous the line is
nateistoraw
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lmao, well if you never replied to her do not reply, pretend that you did not get the message or you "do not have texting on ur fone"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Whatever you say, be honest and make it clear you don't condone cheating either from yourself or your girl (if that is true!). If you're looking for a relationship then it HAS to be two-way.
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
The problem with replies here is that far too many guys are suggesting some "****y funny" reply that is apparently supposed to be "alpha" but just sounds lame.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Energizer
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Yep and "NO" is a straight forward answer, you don't need to waffle and for goodness shakes man stop with the texting, phone her and communicate through voice and not words on a screen. Just ring her and answer her question and make small talk afterwards.Julian said:
kingy
Senior Don Juan
be honest,
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
scrouds
Master Don Juan
When I first read the question, my gut told me to pull C+F out and make a joke about it. But I totally understand that it can be taken bad over text.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
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Energizer
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"I have cheated HAHAHA that's f*cking hilarious mate". Jesus H Christ man, how can you make a simple yes or no question work for you other than answering yes or no?scrouds said:
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reply with exactly this:
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.