Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If a girl had asked me that,I'd be like...Err0r said:Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It's a text. You don't have to reply. Don't play her stupid insecure games.Err0r said:Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yep and "NO" is a straight forward answer, you don't need to waffle and for goodness shakes man stop with the texting, phone her and communicate through voice and not words on a screen. Just ring her and answer her question and make small talk afterwards.Julian said:The answer to that question is, a very definitive NO.
"I have cheated HAHAHA that's f*cking hilarious mate". Jesus H Christ man, how can you make a simple yes or no question work for you other than answering yes or no?scrouds said:When I first read the question, my gut told me to pull C+F out and make a joke about it. But I totally understand that it can be taken bad over text.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.