Talking to this chick and things are going well. She text my asking if I have ever cheated on any of my girlfriends. I never have and looking for any good texts to send back to her and not be like every guy and say no no im sooo loyal etc etc....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
girl texts "have you cheated on any of your girlfriends?"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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This is why I don't text, and why you should stop.
Hidden-Hand
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Stop texting girls completely. Keep it at 2-3 and only text to set up a date/make sure she's on her way and you will avoid problems like this. Text her this "Maybe I'll tell you next year ;-)." and leave it at that. Change the subject and set up a date. Don't be a Beta.
Igetit!
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If a girl had asked me that,I'd be like...Err0r said:
"Have I ever cheated on a girlfriend? Well yeah,of course I have. In fact,I've cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had. I hope that's not going to be a problem,is it?".
Remember,when it comes to dating,women are emotional,not LOGICAL.
You'd think that saying something like that would cause her to lose interest in you,but more than likely,she'd just be intrigued.
First,she'd wonder why you'd say something like that to her. She'd be like,"Hmm,well he's obviously not trying to win me over to be saying something like that". And if she's hot,then she'd wonder why you're not trying to win her over.
You think something like this would seperate you from all the other guys out there?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Following_of_Me
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The irony that igetit doesnt get it...
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
You can't say that in text. Without obvious sarcasm that's not funny, it's true. And that's a turn off in every way.
The right answer is just to say "no, I don't cheat." then change the subject. You don't need to explain yourself, just answer the question.
NewAndImproved
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I'd like to get to the point where I could say this:
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
"Yes, I have. In fact, I'm cheating on you right now."
no im definitely with igetit on this one. except htere is one thing you have to have and that is a understanding from her that you like to joke around. if you are serious with her all the time in person, she is going to see that side of you in text, no matter how ridiculous the line is
nateistoraw
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lmao, well if you never replied to her do not reply, pretend that you did not get the message or you "do not have texting on ur fone"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Whatever you say, be honest and make it clear you don't condone cheating either from yourself or your girl (if that is true!). If you're looking for a relationship then it HAS to be two-way.
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
If you don't cheat yet your girl thinks you will accept it, it's no good. Don't just say your loyal for the sake of loyalty. You are loyal to your friends and who return it
You can do better than just simply saying no or whatever
The problem with replies here is that far too many guys are suggesting some "****y funny" reply that is apparently supposed to be "alpha" but just sounds lame.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
You don't have to deal with answering, but basically I'd just say no. Why is any "****y" bullsh1t needed here. Just say no and brush it off completely. As in, what Salamence said
you can also say what horaholic said for a laugh but really is just as good to say no.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Energizer
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Yep and "NO" is a straight forward answer, you don't need to waffle and for goodness shakes man stop with the texting, phone her and communicate through voice and not words on a screen. Just ring her and answer her question and make small talk afterwards.Julian said:
kingy
Senior Don Juan
be honest,
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
on a side note she is probably asking because she has been cheated on in the past and she has low-self esteem. if you really like her then you can build her up but if she has trust issues already this is probably gonna give u a huge headache and she will be more likely to cheat on u 2
scrouds
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When I first read the question, my gut told me to pull C+F out and make a joke about it. But I totally understand that it can be taken bad over text.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
Instead, I'm going with captain here. Feel free to ignore texts. Especially this one. It will get her thinking, worrying, emotional. That's good. She WILL bring it up in conversation again, and in person or over the phone, you can pull out the C+F and put a good spin on it. Or you can get very serious and basically shove it back on her and say that you don't stand for any cheating. Both sides are very valid.
What I wouldn't do is just straight up answer no (or straight up answer yes). It does nothing for you, far as i can see. Make it work for you.
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"I have cheated HAHAHA that's f*cking hilarious mate". Jesus H Christ man, how can you make a simple yes or no question work for you other than answering yes or no?scrouds said:
WhoIsThatGirl?
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reply with exactly this:
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"Well i see all my ex's got to you too. it only happened 8 times, can't a guy get a break geeez!"
then wait like 5 minutes and text her this:
"lol j/k...if you wanna know all about me darling, then you're gonna have to ask me in person and tell me all about you too"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.