GreatHornedOwl
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Anybody know what a "jerk" looks like? She said it playfully, but was kind of serious. It didn't seem like a compliment.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Girl tells me I "look" like a jerk.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Domo_Arigatoo
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shyt test, she was most likely looking to see if she could envoke a reaction out of you.
People call me "weird" all the time...
I usually do either of these
*ignore*
"Oh, thanks, i love being weird"
or
"People who aren't weird are too generic"
Usually after i implement one of those they say, "Oh, i was just kidding" or "Yeah, you're right"
Don't dwell on **** like this.
People call me "weird" all the time...
I usually do either of these
*ignore*
"Oh, thanks, i love being weird"
or
"People who aren't weird are too generic"
Usually after i implement one of those they say, "Oh, i was just kidding" or "Yeah, you're right"
Don't dwell on **** like this.
Mike32ct
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At best, it's a sh*t test. At worst, she's just a b*tch being mean.
But either way, just let it roll off of your back.
But either way, just let it roll off of your back.
fibonacci
Don Juan
GreatHornedOwl said:
Were you wearing a meathead shirt or some of those fancy European business shoes (ideally white)? - be honest. :kick:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
she's opened the door for you to tell her what she looks like
keep it playful and steer it to where you want it to go
instead of looking to validate her premise ("does anyone know what a jerk looks like"), create one of your own and play back at her
"its very impressive that you can form such accurate opinions so quickly with little information. some people would consider that jumping to conclusions. but since you are accurate in this case, here's your reward!"
then grab or smack her ass
when/if she protests, exclaim "I'm an ass-grabbing jerk! woo hoo! I'm an ass-grabbing jerk!"
OR
simply own it. this is much easier and requires less planning and execution. when she says you look like a jerk, own it.
"mm hmm. biggest jerk of all time. don't care who knows it."
then shut up and see how she responds
OR
"yeah well you look like a *****, but i've decided not to hold it against you"
OR
"i'll not be party to your insults! good day!"
and leave
the possibilities are endless. use your head for more than a hatrack!
keep it playful and steer it to where you want it to go
instead of looking to validate her premise ("does anyone know what a jerk looks like"), create one of your own and play back at her
"its very impressive that you can form such accurate opinions so quickly with little information. some people would consider that jumping to conclusions. but since you are accurate in this case, here's your reward!"
then grab or smack her ass
when/if she protests, exclaim "I'm an ass-grabbing jerk! woo hoo! I'm an ass-grabbing jerk!"
OR
simply own it. this is much easier and requires less planning and execution. when she says you look like a jerk, own it.
"mm hmm. biggest jerk of all time. don't care who knows it."
then shut up and see how she responds
OR
"yeah well you look like a *****, but i've decided not to hold it against you"
OR
"i'll not be party to your insults! good day!"
and leave
the possibilities are endless. use your head for more than a hatrack!
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
LOLAlle_Gory said:
It's true!In2theGame said:
Open up yourself to the possibilities, there are very smart people out there, there are also very dumb people out there and when you meet them you think to yourself "how is this person still alive? there is no justice in the world". I say treat her like she's a child and you can get far.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
She is just busting on you. Fire your ****y/funny teasing cannon back at her. I wish I had girls who would do that to me. She might even run some game on you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
I had one girl interested in me and the first thing she said was "you are a d!ck, aren't you", completely unprovoked. They juat wanna see how you react.
Alex DeLarge
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Tell her she looks like a wh0re lol.. Then give her a sly smirk.