"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been making out with a chick at uni. Although since this happened whether she is aone with me or in a group she talks about her ex alot (who lives upstairs apparently).

How do I deal with this? Change the subject as fast as possible or what?

I'm not looking for a serious relationship with this girl, just some fun hopefully but I just want to tell her to shut the hell up when she goes on about her ex.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cant really just next her at the drop of a hat. I thought the best thng to do was to try and get her onto a different subject?
 
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"Don't you have some GFs you can talk to about him ?"
 
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TxCowboy

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just tell her strait up "I really dont want to discuss your ex's" OR "sounds like something you should talk to with the girls"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i told a girl "i really dont want to hear about u and your ex"

and she just went "oh okay", and yeah

simple

you complicate things
 
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