"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl subtly told me she has a boyfriend.

MountainSlide

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So I am chatting with this girl over text and hanging out with her a couple times, and after this she subtly texts something about hanging out with her boyfriend. I am kind of confused because this girl shows very high interest and it seems like we hit it off pretty well aka "connected". She is still texting me and seems as though she's hanging off my every word. Any ideas on what I should do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RangerMIke

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Women who do this often times are trying to fill an emotional need not being met by their BF. She is using you for male attention, and she'll just go home and fvck her BF. Mauser96 has shown you how to handle this.... use those exact words.
 

El Payaso

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She's just using you for emotional validation. Delete her number and move onto someone else.
 

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I agree with the above. Though, there are rare circumstances when she says "I have a boyfriend" as a way of ASD when she's planning on sleeping with you and cheating on him. If she tells you before hand that she has a boyfriend then you become a co-conspirator, as well as it being a way to rationalize to herself that "it just happened" The rationalization is that she initially told you she had a boyfriend and therefore wasn't planning on cheating on him - even though she was.

But who knows. Either way, I wouldn't pursue this one any further.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bible_Belt

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When a woman you just started talking to that moment tells you she has a bf, it is a polite way of telling you to go away.

But in this case, where she has obviously enjoyed your attention for some time, it is a sh!t test. She is saying to you, "will you still keep giving me attention, even when you know I'm not going to give you any pvssy?"

That doesn't mean you should run away immediately. When she first brought up the bf, you should have said "Boyfriend?....Well, you had better not tell him about me." And then kiss her, touch her ass, or do something that is obviously inappropriate for a woman with a bf. If she likes it, then she is not that serious about the bf.
 

marmel75

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Could be a sh!t test, could be true. Doesn't matter. Act as if you never heard it and don't let it phase you. If you want to get it, then try and get it.
 
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