"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl straight out tells me that her bf is going away, what do you thinks up?

Kal0051

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This is a girl I started talking to again recently. Anyway I asked her if she wanted to do something this week. She told me that next week would be better, she's working a lot this week and her bf is going away for a while. I'm probably reading WAY too much into this, but I've always thought that she liked me. Anyway, should I escalate with this girl at all or just have a fun time with a cool girl? Thanks for any help?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kal0051 said:
Should I escalate with this girl at all or just have a fun time with a cool girl? Thanks for any help?
You can't do both?

I mean, you don't lose anything by trying do you????
 

Kal0051

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Ferocious said:
You can't do both?

I mean, you don't lose anything by trying do you????
Well, I more meant should I escalate or not? Of course I'll have a fun time regardless, if I didn't think I'd have fun I wouldn't want to hang out with her.
 

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It never harms to esculate, just don't be too full on, incase she reads too much into u being desperate or some sh!t. Go with your gut, to be honest it depends on your history with this girl, if she's used to you being there as a friend she might just mean "Hey come over and be my emotional tampon whilst my bf's away". Your call though dude. Play it wise.
 

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I've not really been her friend, more like an acquaintance.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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