"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl smiles first in drive by

Naapimp

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So I walk by a lot of girls around where I live and on campus. I try to give EC to those that interest me, usually HB7-8s, just because 9-10s are quite rare and I don’t care about below 7. I get EC back from about 70% of them, of these about 1/15 will give me a genuine smile, without me doing anything but the EC, maybe I do some very subtle facial expression change when I get the EC that could help this, I’m still trying to figure that one out. I’m almost always trying get to some place on a time frame and don’t really think about starting in a convo with these girls. However, I intend to change that, so I’m guessing these girls that smile first are kinda hoping I’ll stop to talk to them, is this correct? Would you use your standard openers on these girls? I was thinking of maybe trying something different like:

Hey, *stop walking, get her to stop, use hand if necessary* So you smiled you at me, would you like to get to know each other.

Or:

So is there any particular reason you just smiled at me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Rockadeimis

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- So you smiled you at me, would you like to get to know each other.

Sounds way too needy...

Or:

- So is there any particular reason you just smiled at me?

Even worse...she will say somethig like 'just being friendly' and you'll creep her out bigtime.

Just relax, big guy. Seems like you are doing too much analysis. Sometimes analysis =/= success. Read the info on this site and put what you can into practice. It's more about you and your attitude/confidence then it is about the girl(s) in question.
 

spider_007

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NOOOOOOOOO,

that sounds sooooo gay.........

just stop turn around, smile back and say " hi im blah bha blah, what's your name" and then coment on something she is waring or doing or whatever............................
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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