"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl smiles first in drive by

Naapimp

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So I walk by a lot of girls around where I live and on campus. I try to give EC to those that interest me, usually HB7-8s, just because 9-10s are quite rare and I don’t care about below 7. I get EC back from about 70% of them, of these about 1/15 will give me a genuine smile, without me doing anything but the EC, maybe I do some very subtle facial expression change when I get the EC that could help this, I’m still trying to figure that one out. I’m almost always trying get to some place on a time frame and don’t really think about starting in a convo with these girls. However, I intend to change that, so I’m guessing these girls that smile first are kinda hoping I’ll stop to talk to them, is this correct? Would you use your standard openers on these girls? I was thinking of maybe trying something different like:

Hey, *stop walking, get her to stop, use hand if necessary* So you smiled you at me, would you like to get to know each other.

Or:

So is there any particular reason you just smiled at me?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rockadeimis

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- So you smiled you at me, would you like to get to know each other.

Sounds way too needy...

Or:

- So is there any particular reason you just smiled at me?

Even worse...she will say somethig like 'just being friendly' and you'll creep her out bigtime.

Just relax, big guy. Seems like you are doing too much analysis. Sometimes analysis =/= success. Read the info on this site and put what you can into practice. It's more about you and your attitude/confidence then it is about the girl(s) in question.
 

spider_007

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NOOOOOOOOO,

that sounds sooooo gay.........

just stop turn around, smile back and say " hi im blah bha blah, what's your name" and then coment on something she is waring or doing or whatever............................
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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