"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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girl said im cute, good response?

baurman

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so this girl left me a msg on mysapce going "psssst ... you' re cute" and I was just wondering how should I respond to this? should I do it in a C&F manner? or would that be too harsh on her? I want to bang this chick so something that I can say to make her want me even more would be appreciated.

I was thinking of saying like "I know I am" or something, but I think thats just being too conceited and would piss her off.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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say "you are too. imagine how cute we'd be together" or "your cute, im cute...let's be cute together."
 

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lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
 

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"pssst.....so is my d!ck"
 

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When someone tells me I'm cute or hot or whatever, I just smile and move on and not focus on myself... It shows that I know I am attractive and that I appreciate the compliment, but at the same time I don't look like a stuck up ******* lol
 

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myspace is way different than real life... it really depends on what she looks like... if she's average or cute - the best thing to do on myspace is to compliment her back and attempt to start a conversation... if she's hot - just overlook her saying it and start talking to her. myspace babes get complimented all day on there... look at how many friends she has, how many comments, comments on pics, etc etc...

every girl on there is different... figure out what she is...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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BlakeW5 said:
"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
Nice one Blake :). I'll use that one the next time a chick tells me that.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
I used to do that until i found out that saying "thank you" as if you've been there before works alot better.
 
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