"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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girl said im cute, good response?

baurman

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so this girl left me a msg on mysapce going "psssst ... you' re cute" and I was just wondering how should I respond to this? should I do it in a C&F manner? or would that be too harsh on her? I want to bang this chick so something that I can say to make her want me even more would be appreciated.

I was thinking of saying like "I know I am" or something, but I think thats just being too conceited and would piss her off.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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connor32

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say "you are too. imagine how cute we'd be together" or "your cute, im cute...let's be cute together."
 

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lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
 

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"pssst.....so is my d!ck"
 

ChapStick

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When someone tells me I'm cute or hot or whatever, I just smile and move on and not focus on myself... It shows that I know I am attractive and that I appreciate the compliment, but at the same time I don't look like a stuck up ******* lol
 

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myspace is way different than real life... it really depends on what she looks like... if she's average or cute - the best thing to do on myspace is to compliment her back and attempt to start a conversation... if she's hot - just overlook her saying it and start talking to her. myspace babes get complimented all day on there... look at how many friends she has, how many comments, comments on pics, etc etc...

every girl on there is different... figure out what she is...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BlakeW5 said:
"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
Nice one Blake :). I'll use that one the next time a chick tells me that.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
I used to do that until i found out that saying "thank you" as if you've been there before works alot better.
 
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