Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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girl said im cute, good response?

baurman

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so this girl left me a msg on mysapce going "psssst ... you' re cute" and I was just wondering how should I respond to this? should I do it in a C&F manner? or would that be too harsh on her? I want to bang this chick so something that I can say to make her want me even more would be appreciated.

I was thinking of saying like "I know I am" or something, but I think thats just being too conceited and would piss her off.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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connor32

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say "you are too. imagine how cute we'd be together" or "your cute, im cute...let's be cute together."
 

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lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BlakeW5

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"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
 

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"pssst.....so is my d!ck"
 

ChapStick

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When someone tells me I'm cute or hot or whatever, I just smile and move on and not focus on myself... It shows that I know I am attractive and that I appreciate the compliment, but at the same time I don't look like a stuck up ******* lol
 

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myspace is way different than real life... it really depends on what she looks like... if she's average or cute - the best thing to do on myspace is to compliment her back and attempt to start a conversation... if she's hot - just overlook her saying it and start talking to her. myspace babes get complimented all day on there... look at how many friends she has, how many comments, comments on pics, etc etc...

every girl on there is different... figure out what she is...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BlakeW5 said:
"I see you've got good taste"

compliments the both of you
Nice one Blake :). I'll use that one the next time a chick tells me that.
 

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TheEdgeOf said:
lol, wtf, no offense, but I would not listen to the two guys who just posted. People say this to me all the time. Whenever they do, I always look them in the eyes and come back with "I know" and then look away and continue whatever it was I was doing before. By doing that I demonstrate higher value (regular compliments aren't going to get my attention) and essentially tell her that if she wants my attention, she's going to have to work harder for it.

That's just me though, some other more experienced DJs might have a better idea of how to handle this. I'm just telling you what works for me.
I used to do that until i found out that saying "thank you" as if you've been there before works alot better.
 
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