Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl not into dating scene

HarlequinMan

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Hey i met this cute girl and hung out with her several times progressing to make out sessions. However, this girl is obviously a virgin. She told me she has never french kissed a guy and never had a boyfriend. The girl is beautiful so her never having a boyfriend was shocking to me, and i told her she was sexy and she was shocked that i thought so. Also, I grabbed her butt and she freaked out and told me not to do it again. :( Im frustrated because most of the other girls ive been with have been really into me touching them. She told me we should be exclusive, but i dont know if i can. i mean shes 20 and afraid of me sqeezing her butt! Any tips on how i could make her more comfortable with progression?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kal0051

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hmm, this will be a tough one. I mean if you push too hard you'll just push her away. Maybe try and get her comfortable with you touching her, you probably just surprised her suddenly grabbing her ass. This might take more time than your used to. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe someone else here has more experience with girls like this.
 

HarlequinMan

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Yeah man i mean she is phenomenal, smart, funny, etc. however her problem is she wont let me close....i thought i did everything well, kino, rub her bare back, etc. then i went for grabbing her butt and she freaked! LOL man im going to have to take it REALLY slow if i want to persue her!
 

mothballs

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I dunno what to say about that... that's the kind of stuff that I encountered in junior high... I was making out with this girl and she told me that she wanted me to put my hands on her butt... but at the same time, tits were completely off limits. Girls with limited experience will interpret advances in these areas as you trying to force sex on them... truth is she's not giving that up until she's completely ready, and you might not get to touch the fun bits until she's ready to go all the way.
 

HarlequinMan

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good advice man, never thought of it that way....thanks...so my game plan will be to continue making out and progressing by taking her clothes off, not by touching the "forbidden areas". GENIUS!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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If she won't even let you get past making out and is talking about getting exclusive, she probably won't give up much more out of a relationship. I'd say this one's more trouble than you need.
 
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