"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl is throwing DHVs at me as a jealousy tactic

The_Reaper

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I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonJuanit0

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Yeah, there are people, women/men that have brain issues!

Stay away!
 

EFFORT

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The_Reaper said:
I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

Pretty pointless unless you plan on seeing her again

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating

Ok so it was a fling you had with her

, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Means your my only option



Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

Why would she be trying to make you jealous? You just had a fling with her and its over. Thats why i'm confused why your still talking, your hundreds of miles away.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".

You could just stop talking to her and talk to girls near you instead.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mikeyb

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Is this girl a blonde by any chance? lol
 

game.r

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Just reply

" its not something i would say, you should ask him"

then change the topic. I don't have a problem exchanging the occasional email, just don't become her emotional tampon.
 

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Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
 

The_Reaper

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EFFORT said:
I enjoy her conversation, she's cool.

I keep in touch with quite a few girls I've been with before. She's a contact for me if I ever end up going to the states near where she lives. Nothing wrong with that.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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sodbuster said:
Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
Hah, that was pretty funny
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tazman

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You DHV by "encouraging" her to move on it. Don't spend a lot of time talking about it, just reply with one sentence.

Anything that makes it seem like you don't care.
 

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From what I've learned, you can do three things:
1. What Tazman said
2. Add humor somehow?
3. Turn the tables by mentioning your experience with another woman

Also, I think there's no harm with staying in touch.
 
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