"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah, there are people, women/men that have brain issues!

Stay away!
 
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The_Reaper said:
I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

Pretty pointless unless you plan on seeing her again

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating

Ok so it was a fling you had with her

, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Means your my only option



Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

Why would she be trying to make you jealous? You just had a fling with her and its over. Thats why i'm confused why your still talking, your hundreds of miles away.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".

You could just stop talking to her and talk to girls near you instead.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is this girl a blonde by any chance? lol
 
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Just reply

" its not something i would say, you should ask him"

then change the topic. I don't have a problem exchanging the occasional email, just don't become her emotional tampon.
 
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Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
 
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I enjoy her conversation, she's cool.

I keep in touch with quite a few girls I've been with before. She's a contact for me if I ever end up going to the states near where she lives. Nothing wrong with that.
 
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sodbuster said:
Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
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Hah, that was pretty funny
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You DHV by "encouraging" her to move on it. Don't spend a lot of time talking about it, just reply with one sentence.

Anything that makes it seem like you don't care.
 
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From what I've learned, you can do three things:
1. What Tazman said
2. Add humor somehow?
3. Turn the tables by mentioning your experience with another woman

Also, I think there's no harm with staying in touch.
 
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