"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl is throwing DHVs at me as a jealousy tactic

The_Reaper

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I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonJuanit0

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Yeah, there are people, women/men that have brain issues!

Stay away!
 

EFFORT

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The_Reaper said:
I was sleeping with a girl for a few weeks while I met her in her city, we exchanged emails, and though we're hundreds of miles apart, we occasionally send light-hearted emails back and forth.

Pretty pointless unless you plan on seeing her again

In the last email, she posted a chunk of text from a beta who she's dating

Ok so it was a fling you had with her

, where he said "you mean so much to me" etc. She "asked" what he could mean by that.

Means your my only option



Lol.

Man, do these chicks not realise how transparent their tactics are? Her motivations seem obvious.

Why would she be trying to make you jealous? You just had a fling with her and its over. Thats why i'm confused why your still talking, your hundreds of miles away.

The worst thing is, I can't just call her on it. It can't be put "out there".

You could just stop talking to her and talk to girls near you instead.

bold
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mikeyb

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Is this girl a blonde by any chance? lol
 

game.r

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Just reply

" its not something i would say, you should ask him"

then change the topic. I don't have a problem exchanging the occasional email, just don't become her emotional tampon.
 

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Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
 

The_Reaper

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EFFORT said:
I enjoy her conversation, she's cool.

I keep in touch with quite a few girls I've been with before. She's a contact for me if I ever end up going to the states near where she lives. Nothing wrong with that.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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sodbuster said:
Oh, thats nice, it means he's in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE with you;you should grab him quick and marry him.
Hah, that was pretty funny
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tazman

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You DHV by "encouraging" her to move on it. Don't spend a lot of time talking about it, just reply with one sentence.

Anything that makes it seem like you don't care.
 

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From what I've learned, you can do three things:
1. What Tazman said
2. Add humor somehow?
3. Turn the tables by mentioning your experience with another woman

Also, I think there's no harm with staying in touch.
 
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