A goddamn shame. A new chick is throwing pvssy at you but you're still stuck on the old chick who you arent even in a relationship with yet. This chick that you're stuck on wouldn't think twice about jumping in bed with one of her ex's if they offered it. If you have any shred of masculinity left in you you'll take her up on her offer and properly ravage her. Read the bible http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/ and when you finally grow some balls travel back in time to your past self and slap him.bobbates said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Girl is friends with exs? (Very Long but needed :( )
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Sleep with her and lie about it!bobbates said:
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Jules_Winfield said:
Fixed!
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Peaks&Valleys
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Easier said than done, we're men, we all do it. It's the nature of the Beast. You just need to be prepared to deal with it if that investment goes bad.
Peaks&Valleys
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Well, it was a bad idea, chicks are full of em. Three words you need to learn OP: Fvck that sh1tbobbates said:
Try it on for size. That little phrase comes in handy every once in while.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Right I did go for it last night but then it was late and thunder storming and she was worried about it - so i said its ok for tonight (im not gonna make her drive in it).
This girl also knows all about me and exs girl as well lol...
I am going to see this girl with the exs today as well - and might as well go see what i want out of this or not - oh and she said she will stop talking to them completlly now. - cos i said i cant be with someone who does that - end of.
But then I will be coming home later and - I know this girl would pretty much come round to **** me now - cos i talk to her a lot and i dont think that was just one night of being horny tbh.
so...
Im seriouslly thinking of doing it one night.
I just need to know 2 things.
1) Does it make me a bad person if i do that.
2) Is this cheating in any kind? (dont see how if we aint together yet - but we have both said to eachother we will not be sleeping with anyone else - and I have not been - and neither has she (as far as i know lol)
Final thoughts before i decide to cross that line or not?
(also i cant beleve this is even happining - i cant get girls most of the time - so wtf happend?! lol)
This girl also knows all about me and exs girl as well lol...
I am going to see this girl with the exs today as well - and might as well go see what i want out of this or not - oh and she said she will stop talking to them completlly now. - cos i said i cant be with someone who does that - end of.
But then I will be coming home later and - I know this girl would pretty much come round to **** me now - cos i talk to her a lot and i dont think that was just one night of being horny tbh.
so...
Im seriouslly thinking of doing it one night.
I just need to know 2 things.
1) Does it make me a bad person if i do that.
2) Is this cheating in any kind? (dont see how if we aint together yet - but we have both said to eachother we will not be sleeping with anyone else - and I have not been - and neither has she (as far as i know lol)
Final thoughts before i decide to cross that line or not?
(also i cant beleve this is even happining - i cant get girls most of the time - so wtf happend?! lol)
The dumbest thing you can do is tell her "these are my boundaries, respect them or else." Once you do that ALL your cards are on the table and by knowing your hand you are completely screwed. If you want to get with this girl, and like others have said I don't know why when you can clearly do better, you have to take complete control. Write down your boundaries and what the consequence will be if she breaks them. Believe me she is going to break them, she is a boundary buster for sure. You might already have screwed yourself with this one by showing her you are needy and clingy. Your goal is to get her to chase you, right now you are doing the chasing.
From reading your conversation she is likely a cluster B. If you really want to be with her you are going to need balls of steel and extra thick skin. You are going to have to be able to control your emotions and keep them to yourself. Any hint that you are a BETA and she will eat you for lunch. And you also need to be prepared that if can turn it around and show her that you are Alpha, she will most likely see she cannot feed off of you and leave you alone to find easier prey.
From reading your conversation she is likely a cluster B. If you really want to be with her you are going to need balls of steel and extra thick skin. You are going to have to be able to control your emotions and keep them to yourself. Any hint that you are a BETA and she will eat you for lunch. And you also need to be prepared that if can turn it around and show her that you are Alpha, she will most likely see she cannot feed off of you and leave you alone to find easier prey.
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Girl is friends with exes? Cool story bro! She ain't bouncing off my f*ck piece until she gets rid of him/them.
My friend got into a relationship with a girl who was in still in touch with her ex and guess what? She wound up blowing his piece and her ex's too.
My friend got into a relationship with a girl who was in still in touch with her ex and guess what? She wound up blowing his piece and her ex's too.
Dude, just because she told you she has stopped talking to her ex's doesn't mean it is true. I can guarantee she has not. She is telling you what you want to hear and testing to see if you are still on the hook. You are getting played. You are naive and have no clue what cluster B's are capable of.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.