Well after only about a month of ignoring this girl completely, she comes crawling back in force. She keeps on telling me how sorry she is, she dumped her old bf and now wants me. Now when I was a big time AFC I was all over her while she was going out with him, and I spent alot of time trying to get her to like me. Well after a year (within that year being a couple months of no contact) she is like totally in my hands now. What do you guys suggest I do? Should I initiate a relationship and give her a chance, and now that I know for a fact that she likes me and wants to go out with me, should I start contact with her instead of doing the hard to get sort of thing (reversed that onto her haha) thanks.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl is back, oh sh1t
- Thread starter WhAcKeD!
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kineti[C]harm
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LouieVaton Don
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Rule of thumb Whacked!, you should never intiate the relationship, you can only agree.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PuertoRican_Lover
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You wanted this girl for over a year but couldn't have her, now that she wants you. you don't want her!
Quit playing games!
Quit playing games!