Dhoulmagus
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Im not even trying to play hard to get. I just have a life lol.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl im talking to said I was a playing hard to get
- Thread starter Dhoulmagus
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
since when do guys play hard to get?
oh, and, good job, that means she wants you.
oh, and, good job, that means she wants you.
MOTU
Master Don Juan
When I was dating a lot women used to refer to me as "elusive", "hard to figure out", etc. I always took it as a sign my game was tight.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
You have to do a little more than just raise a finger here and there.cfdagola said:
A better approach is to really step it up and make her feel special when you see each other in person, but balance it out by limiting seeing each other to about two times a week, minimal texting, and keep phone calls short.