Ok there is a girl I am interested in. She is clearly interested in me however is only interested when I am not. Its a case of where she is one of those girls who loves the chase and as soon as you show interest backs off. Its basically a lose lose situation. What I would like to know is is it possible to actually get these types of girls or are they emotionally unstable, love guy attention and the challenge? Im sure some people have encountered females similar to this, you know the ones who only love the chase and never commit.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl I am interested in.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MightyMate
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Im just like this girl. But im in LTR. So she also can be caught.
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Catch her at her own game. If she shows insane interest, grab her and kiss her before she can breathe a word. Then ignore her.
She'll come running back
She'll come running back
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LongDrinkofWater
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Just pick and choose the types of attention to give her. Don't give her anything concrete to go on when you give her attention (no "beyond a shadow of a doubt" words). No words, just actions.
Grabbing her and kissing her, then ignoring her would be a great thing to do, especially if done in a playful way.
I've known several girls like this, and they can be a lot of fun to work on. The fun part is seeing how they go about eliciting that elusive attention from you.......
Grabbing her and kissing her, then ignoring her would be a great thing to do, especially if done in a playful way.
I've known several girls like this, and they can be a lot of fun to work on. The fun part is seeing how they go about eliciting that elusive attention from you.......
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Look again.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ganji games is when you ignore her completely so she becomes more interested in you. In the short run ganji games work great, in the long run, its not the best move to do.
Its such a shame we all have to master these games to get girls. Girls are so fvcking crazy. She likes you ...and once she finds out you like her, she doesnt like you anymore. Thats great....the minute a girl does that to me, im over her and done. No way am i letting a girl run me though the mill with these head tricks. I have to much to offer to be pu$$y footing around.
I say you cut this girl off completely and never look back. But you probably wont because you seem clueless.
Its such a shame we all have to master these games to get girls. Girls are so fvcking crazy. She likes you ...and once she finds out you like her, she doesnt like you anymore. Thats great....the minute a girl does that to me, im over her and done. No way am i letting a girl run me though the mill with these head tricks. I have to much to offer to be pu$$y footing around.
I say you cut this girl off completely and never look back. But you probably wont because you seem clueless.
MightyMate
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Girls lik that are caugh only by luck. For exampl You have to get some social status or date many woman so she sees You as a value and when she tries a date. You say You are busy. Then date her. Then busy, Etc. Hard to say.
Ye I think ill just cut her off completely, although before when I did that she just came after me harder and I thought then maybe it could happen but as i showed interest she backed off. Im gonna have to just follow through this time and move on as these girls are almost impossible to get.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
blueangel83
Senior Don Juan
I'm the type that chases men and does not like to be chased.
Sometimes I respond to men who chase me, only if they're hot.
Sometimes I respond to men who chase me, only if they're hot.
tell me about it...some women do this for attention/boost ego. And some are just very good at playing aloof while hiding their true interest...in their minds they're playing out scenarios and keep wondering why you arent chasing them.
i guess a lot of times it's also easy to mistaken a girl's treating you nice for IL in you.
anyway just keep your eyes open and separate the attention hoes from the real ones with real interest.