a friend of mine is actually very attractive and gets hiton/approached alot. but the problem is she thinkes she is butt ugly and everytime we talk she brings this negativity into the conversation and it bothers me lol. well she is somewhat like a best friend of 4-5 years and im not trying to lay her or something. how would you show her that she isnt a ug? reasoning doesnt work, you cant just tell them that they are beautiful and expect them to buy it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
lol wtf???Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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LOLOriginally posted by ( . )( . )
Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
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You should not try to show her that she's not ugly. But rather, in subtle ways, confirm her own self-image. I don't mean to put it in her face like "yeah, I agree with you; the way you see yourself is right on the money, you are ugly". But rather agree by failing to disagree. Tell her what a great person she is or some B.S.
Never bother to "fix" girls with bad self-esteem. That problem comes from inside themselves, and your attempts will only backfire on you.
With some of them, almost anything you say to them will be interpreted in ways that confirm their bad self-image, so you look insincere even if you aren't. ("He's just saying nice things to me not because they are true, which they are obviously not, but because of ...''). The imagined reason could be anything from you being a nice guy, to you faking being a nice guy to get in her pants, etc.
Others are just fishing for attention and compliments. Never give chicks exactly what they want, right? If she's fishing for a compliment, find something in which she has solid confidence and compliment that. You gave her a compliment, but not exactly the one she wanted. If she thinks she's has a big ass, tell her that it makes her waist look smaller.