a friend of mine is actually very attractive and gets hiton/approached alot. but the problem is she thinkes she is butt ugly and everytime we talk she brings this negativity into the conversation and it bothers me lol. well she is somewhat like a best friend of 4-5 years and im not trying to lay her or something. how would you show her that she isnt a ug? reasoning doesnt work, you cant just tell them that they are beautiful and expect them to buy it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
lol wtf???Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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LOLOriginally posted by ( . )( . )
Go read the Bible then stick it in her ass.
Pffft "How do I tell my hot friend shes hot, all the guys that hit on her are apparently not enough to boost her ego, it has to be me, help me supplicate guys"
Get the fvck out of here you douche bag.
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You should not try to show her that she's not ugly. But rather, in subtle ways, confirm her own self-image. I don't mean to put it in her face like "yeah, I agree with you; the way you see yourself is right on the money, you are ugly". But rather agree by failing to disagree. Tell her what a great person she is or some B.S.
Never bother to "fix" girls with bad self-esteem. That problem comes from inside themselves, and your attempts will only backfire on you.
With some of them, almost anything you say to them will be interpreted in ways that confirm their bad self-image, so you look insincere even if you aren't. ("He's just saying nice things to me not because they are true, which they are obviously not, but because of ...''). The imagined reason could be anything from you being a nice guy, to you faking being a nice guy to get in her pants, etc.
Others are just fishing for attention and compliments. Never give chicks exactly what they want, right? If she's fishing for a compliment, find something in which she has solid confidence and compliment that. You gave her a compliment, but not exactly the one she wanted. If she thinks she's has a big ass, tell her that it makes her waist look smaller.