"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl grabs my money

rrrrr

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I'm not going to jump to the conclusion she wanted you to buy her a drink. I thnk she wanted to talk to you, and the thing that stuck out, the thing that she could open with, was that you had $5 in your hand. It's similar to when I go out with my college jacket, people will go up and talk to me about it. If I wear a whte shirt and jeans and nothing else, there's nothing unique about it. If on top of that I had this wicked cool necklace or whatever, someone could approach me and say hey cool necklace.

I think that's the same thing that happened here. The fact he had $5 in his hand was her opener... something she could bring up. But she stole it and he IGNORED it "playing cool" and looked like a pushover in the process.

Then she busted his balls and again looked like a pushover. All in all it wasn't a good performance. I'm not saying she was interested in him, who knows, we will never know. But I do know he didn't handle it well. What do domestics cost $5 at this place? Expensive bar to get ****ed up!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Max Power

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rrrrr said:
I'm not going to jump to the conclusion she wanted you to buy her a drink. I thnk she wanted to talk to you, and the thing that stuck out, the thing that she could open with, was that you had $5 in your hand. It's similar to when I go out with my college jacket, people will go up and talk to me about it. If I wear a whte shirt and jeans and nothing else, there's nothing unique about it. If on top of that I had this wicked cool necklace or whatever, someone could approach me and say hey cool necklace.

I think that's the same thing that happened here. The fact he had $5 in his hand was her opener... something she could bring up. But she stole it and he IGNORED it "playing cool" and looked like a pushover in the process.

Then she busted his balls and again looked like a pushover. All in all it wasn't a good performance. I'm not saying she was interested in him, who knows, we will never know. But I do know he didn't handle it well. What do domestics cost $5 at this place? Expensive bar to get ****ed up!
It's Canada man -- we have crazy sin taxes. Expensive drinks and this is a high class place so I don't think I could get away with calling her "b!tch" there like some people want me to.

Speaking from the perspective of the person who was there when the money thing happened, I can say that I think rrrrr has pretty much nailed what happened and exactly how much i screwed up.
 

Kev07

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perhaps, don't call it screwing up, it was just some girl at a bar that decided to chat you up, make a mental note not to let it happen again and forget about it (kinda contradictory i know, but you get the point)
 
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