"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl grabs my money

ConantheLibertarian

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penkitten said:
wtf? dude...
i can see it clearly now...
there she was scouting for someone to buy her a drink and what does she see?
max ordering his beer with his money out.
so she walks up and grabs his money and asks cutely "what can you buy with five dollars"?
she expects him to say "you a drink babe" with some goofy grin on his face
but no...
hes a dj
he sat cool and collective and said "MY beer"
then she asked about how he would tip to see if he would say "i have lots more money than this , what would you like to drink"?
but no...
hes a dj
he said "i have change in my pocket."
then the bartender handed him his beer and he walked away.
good for him.
if she wanted to drink , she should have brought her own damn money.
if she wanted to hang out with him, she would have followed him around chatting with him or trying to get him on the dance floor.
but instead, when they bump into each other, they chat about work.
she could have changed the conversation if she wanted to .
I like the different angle you presented, along with backbreaker. Most of the guys here immediately respond with 'she was showing interest' which she may very well have been. She could have given a better signal, hers just makes her look like a drink wh0re.

Part of being a DJ is not taking crap (or what you perceive as crap) from people. But another line I would use is, 'why, are you propositioning me?' That would certainly send her into a tailspin :D. Instead of the work convo, I would have made up a list of things 5 dollars gets you and handed it to her, be creative.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i say she was interested in getting bought a drink:)
 

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HB7: What can you buy with five dollars?
Me: You tell me *wink*
 

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This is why I never hold out money if I'm at a bar getting another drink. I only hold out money long enough to pay the bartender.

Seriously, how do women think that's even remotely acceptable? Thankfully, it's an attitude that I haven't run into very often.

Apparently there really is something to the saying "The bar is no place for a lady."
 
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penkitten said:
i say she was interested in getting bought a drink:)
A man should NEVER buy a woman a drink - only if he invited her should he be obliged!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I could understand this if you knew her but since you were a stranger to her then something ain't right.

Usually when chicks dig a stranger they are also a bit afraid of him. They are afraid that they will either say something stupid, act stupid and this will turn him off or actually afraid that he will do something to her due to his raw masculine unpredictable nature. This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
 

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DJDamage said:
This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
Interesting theory

All my gfs have been 8s or 9s, but I met them through work or university etc

I'll admit when I meet women outside that zone it's usually luck.

I have been working on improving on my body language.

Anyone else agree with Damage's theory? Or have body language tips.
 

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DJDamage said:
I could understand this if you knew her but since you were a stranger to her then something ain't right.

Usually when chicks dig a stranger they are also a bit afraid of him. They are afraid that they will either say something stupid, act stupid and this will turn him off or actually afraid that he will do something to her due to his raw masculine unpredictable nature. This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
not true.. a woman who has confidence might do something like this because she has a high self esteem about herself and doesn't care what you think about her.

But the avg ***** out there? you are spot on
 

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backbreaker said:
not true.. a woman who has confidence might do something like this because she has a high self esteem about herself and doesn't care what you think about her.

But the avg ***** out there? you are spot on

The kind of woman who has a high self esteem and doesn't care what you think of does exist but they are rare. Even if she had high self esteem you got to wonder how high it was that she was so confident in herself that this would work?!

Whom most likey this prank would be played on?! A guy that carries himself like George Clooney or a guy that carries himself like Andy D1ck???
 

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DJDamage said:
Whom most likey this prank would be played on?! A guy that carries himself like George Clooney or a guy that carries himself like Andy D1ck???
Or wouldn't a woman just ignore Andy d!ck
 

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DJDamage said:
Yeah but sometimes women are just bored and tend to toy with men looking for free attention or drink.

The right amount of C&F would have determined your position but you missed your oppertuinty.
Yeah I think you're right.
 

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What is funny is that this could have meant a lot of things!! I guess the first one being she did want you to buy her a drink. Second that she wanted you to engage her in more. My guard what have been up about the first guess, but I would have hung in just a bit to see her true intentions. Or she could have just been a Biotch playing those silly a$$ woman mind games that they are so good at playing. Nonetheless... Find out!!!
 

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What is funny is that this could have meant a lot of things!!
That's the thing. It seems everyone here has a different take on what the hell this means.

It took me totally by surprise, since she was facing the bar and I just walked in I didn't even notice her until she had my money in her hand. Personally, I think she was interested but I blew it by not being CF and actually giving straight answers like I was in a job interview and trying to qualify myself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when she asked 'what can you buy with 5 dollars', you should've said 'a slap', when she said 'what?', you slap her with the 5 dollar bill in your hand.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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