"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girl grabs my money

ConantheLibertarian

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penkitten said:
wtf? dude...
i can see it clearly now...
there she was scouting for someone to buy her a drink and what does she see?
max ordering his beer with his money out.
so she walks up and grabs his money and asks cutely "what can you buy with five dollars"?
she expects him to say "you a drink babe" with some goofy grin on his face
but no...
hes a dj
he sat cool and collective and said "MY beer"
then she asked about how he would tip to see if he would say "i have lots more money than this , what would you like to drink"?
but no...
hes a dj
he said "i have change in my pocket."
then the bartender handed him his beer and he walked away.
good for him.
if she wanted to drink , she should have brought her own damn money.
if she wanted to hang out with him, she would have followed him around chatting with him or trying to get him on the dance floor.
but instead, when they bump into each other, they chat about work.
she could have changed the conversation if she wanted to .
I like the different angle you presented, along with backbreaker. Most of the guys here immediately respond with 'she was showing interest' which she may very well have been. She could have given a better signal, hers just makes her look like a drink wh0re.

Part of being a DJ is not taking crap (or what you perceive as crap) from people. But another line I would use is, 'why, are you propositioning me?' That would certainly send her into a tailspin :D. Instead of the work convo, I would have made up a list of things 5 dollars gets you and handed it to her, be creative.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i say she was interested in getting bought a drink:)
 

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HB7: What can you buy with five dollars?
Me: You tell me *wink*
 

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This is why I never hold out money if I'm at a bar getting another drink. I only hold out money long enough to pay the bartender.

Seriously, how do women think that's even remotely acceptable? Thankfully, it's an attitude that I haven't run into very often.

Apparently there really is something to the saying "The bar is no place for a lady."
 
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penkitten said:
i say she was interested in getting bought a drink:)
A man should NEVER buy a woman a drink - only if he invited her should he be obliged!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I could understand this if you knew her but since you were a stranger to her then something ain't right.

Usually when chicks dig a stranger they are also a bit afraid of him. They are afraid that they will either say something stupid, act stupid and this will turn him off or actually afraid that he will do something to her due to his raw masculine unpredictable nature. This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
 

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DJDamage said:
This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
Interesting theory

All my gfs have been 8s or 9s, but I met them through work or university etc

I'll admit when I meet women outside that zone it's usually luck.

I have been working on improving on my body language.

Anyone else agree with Damage's theory? Or have body language tips.
 

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DJDamage said:
I could understand this if you knew her but since you were a stranger to her then something ain't right.

Usually when chicks dig a stranger they are also a bit afraid of him. They are afraid that they will either say something stupid, act stupid and this will turn him off or actually afraid that he will do something to her due to his raw masculine unpredictable nature. This chick did something stupid and acted stupid and wasn't least bit afraid of you. Call it a sh1t test if you will but you failed it before opening your mouth. Something about you carrying yourself made this chick think that she can get away with pulling this sh1t.

It could be your body language displaying a passive and submissive attitude and you are not aware of it. Are you usually successful with women or consider it luck when you meet one?
not true.. a woman who has confidence might do something like this because she has a high self esteem about herself and doesn't care what you think about her.

But the avg ***** out there? you are spot on
 

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backbreaker said:
not true.. a woman who has confidence might do something like this because she has a high self esteem about herself and doesn't care what you think about her.

But the avg ***** out there? you are spot on

The kind of woman who has a high self esteem and doesn't care what you think of does exist but they are rare. Even if she had high self esteem you got to wonder how high it was that she was so confident in herself that this would work?!

Whom most likey this prank would be played on?! A guy that carries himself like George Clooney or a guy that carries himself like Andy D1ck???
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJDamage said:
Whom most likey this prank would be played on?! A guy that carries himself like George Clooney or a guy that carries himself like Andy D1ck???
Or wouldn't a woman just ignore Andy d!ck
 

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DJDamage said:
Yeah but sometimes women are just bored and tend to toy with men looking for free attention or drink.

The right amount of C&F would have determined your position but you missed your oppertuinty.
Yeah I think you're right.
 

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What is funny is that this could have meant a lot of things!! I guess the first one being she did want you to buy her a drink. Second that she wanted you to engage her in more. My guard what have been up about the first guess, but I would have hung in just a bit to see her true intentions. Or she could have just been a Biotch playing those silly a$$ woman mind games that they are so good at playing. Nonetheless... Find out!!!
 

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What is funny is that this could have meant a lot of things!!
That's the thing. It seems everyone here has a different take on what the hell this means.

It took me totally by surprise, since she was facing the bar and I just walked in I didn't even notice her until she had my money in her hand. Personally, I think she was interested but I blew it by not being CF and actually giving straight answers like I was in a job interview and trying to qualify myself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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when she asked 'what can you buy with 5 dollars', you should've said 'a slap', when she said 'what?', you slap her with the 5 dollar bill in your hand.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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