"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl gave me her number... and I failed
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
TheBaconator
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You seriously need to step back and look at what happened.Snowman23 said:I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
1.) You didn't make solid plans with her and then got mad at her when she planned something for you both to do. She didn't flake on you, you flaked on her and became a litlle baby because she planned something that didn't sit well with you.
2.) You constantly asked her about her ex, after meeting her what, a week ago? She's right, it's not your business to be poking into her affairs. Just because you are some jealous SOB doesn't make it right.
3.) You drunk dialed her at 4AM singing LOL!!!!
4.) She still took one of your calls, and politley told you "we'll see" on the prospects of getting together.
5.) You call her multiple times just 2 days later.
LMAO, wtf do you expect this woman to think? Guy who gets mad at her for not wanting to come out alone with him, asks about her ex, drunk dials her, curses her out, and then calls like a madman. She probably thinks you are a fckin lunatic, and rightfully so.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Kinda? No, more like absolutely. If you're exhibiting jerk behavior, there isn't any "maybe, kinda, sorta" about it. It either is or isn't.I was drinking and felt kinda dissed because I wasn't planning on this and I kinda acted like a jerk. sarcastically asking if she gave her number out to anybody. Well anyway I kept pushing it and asked about her ex
Probably somewhat. But then you stomped her interest out.I'm wondering if this girl was even interested in me to begin with.
You're thinking this may turn around? Highly doubtful it will, because the damage has been done. You're hoping it turns around because you're attracted to her cute face, but notice that she's not sticking in there hoping it turns around.
Notice how she avoided making plans with you at that stage.I asked her if she was gonna be around later this week and she told me she didn't know because she doesn't have her schedule from her manager yet.
Compare it to earlier, before you did your damage:
"I called her earlier in the week and asked if she was gonna be around on the weekend, she said yeah".
She didn't have to hear first from anyone then.
That was actually smart of you to avoid getting into a situation with unknowns and potential c@ckblockers before having enough time in with her to have her interest in you high enough to override her friend's opinions/interrogation.She was going to be with a couple of her friends and wanted me to come. I was thinking it was going to be just me and her. So anyway I didn't want to go
Now, maybe there was something about that invite that made you feel dissed as you said (maybe it was 'what? she doesn't want to go out with just me?'), and maybe it was warranted to feel that way, I wouldn't know. But to ACT like a jerk and say the wrong things because of how you felt was the mistake. You see that, don't you?
And leaving multiple VMs and calling at 4AM and calling right back from a friend's phone (she suspects that was you) signals an incredible amount of creep factor and neediness to a woman. There's no need to act like that.
If she's being at all civil to you, it's probably because now she's concerned that you may show up outside her window one night and wishes to keep you placated.